For the past few months we didnāt exactly talk but weekly I checked on her to see how sheās doing. But itās all ending now and I canāt handle it well.
I was always fascinated by her but now Iām forced to let her go cuzā thatās what she wants from my side even though I desperately donāt want to lose her. The fact that she thinks our love isnāt worthy enough for a second chance hits my whole nerves !!
However I appreciate her honesty and she learnt to be brutally honest from myself makes me kinda happy for a second though.
šµššš : pls donāt date anyone if youāre an overthinker or a person with different personalities. Cuzā no matter how good you are to them, if ur other personality hurts them, all theyāre going to see is only you. Nothing will change their mind. So donāt !!
Abhijeet A.K @akabhi
I understand your pain and feelings bro.
Donāt be too good for anyone and donāt keep so much expectations from any means anyone
Vicky @vic_ky
Yes
One thing can solve your problem is a reassurance to her , honestly over thinking is not in control and trust me over thinking can make thing worsen only thing you have to do is Make her calm down , talk to her , try n understand what is actually triggering her and have a solution Oriented approach thatās what I can suggest,90% of the girls are overthinkers thatās how their mechanisms Work and thatās not their fault actually thatās the hormones basically
One more think i would like to add is happiness , choosing other ones happiness over you is really important . N I would say at least she is honest she is not to wasting your time trust me i have seen people who are with you for years n they donāt even tell the truth
And people know exactly with whom they can gel up well like our heart n our body has clear answers somehow that attraction or that new excitement ignores the realities
Tried but, she kept saying sheās afraid of me, she canāt see me as her lover anymore. Whenever I talk romantically she gets irritated. So, I honestly forced myself to let go of her for her own happiness
Give her time donāt impose anything keep this natural n free I Am sure that works
I appreciate your support friend, but she wants me to be friends with her not a lover. I think that sums it up everything form her side
She doesnāt wants to hurt you thatās why plus it might be possible due to certain other reasons she might have said this
She thinks my anger issues, overthinking, personality disorders are the problem. I clearly explained her and I told her multiple times that for her sake Iām trying my best to make myself better. But she always said, āIām not easily a forgettable person, somethings I will never forget in my life. Even if I said okay to you it will be faking it for me. Iām kinda scared, everytime you talk to me romantically I kinda feel irritated. I donāt want to hurt you thatās why we should be friends and not as loversā.
I explained to make myself better for her but apparently her non forgettable behaviour wonāt let me in her life. So, I let her go. š„ŗš¶š»āāļøš¶š»āāļø
Maybe in anger you might have disrespected her maybe your intention was not that but still words hurts and are like arrows once gone they never come back and another thing is she certainly might have given you chances to change but couldnāt see any change in you and your behavior might be giving trauma to her so yeah maybe
Exactly, I let my anger get the best out of me. But I never ever meant to hurt her by any means. I donāt want to let her go. But I donāt want to bother her either. I want her to choose me. Anger issues, overthinking personality issues will take a long amount of time to heal. Day by day Iām getting closer. But Now, I lost herš
A worst thing a man can do is disrespect In a fight , I would just say first work on your traits and you can approach her back once you normalize or heal
Hmm, thank you
Plus, her health condition is little sick. so I donāt wanna bother her with thisšš
