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Anonymous

Feeling sad and angry because my girlfriend is just making a fuss about something. Yesterday I was not feeling ok I was confused about my feelings which i told her and after sometime i fell asleep. When i woke up she was mad at me, her point was that she had already a bad mood from a day before and today i havenโ€™t checked upon her for few hrs so that makes her angry! I said itโ€™s not making sense. I was also feeling not good about myself so asking about you didnโ€™t came to mind and when i woke up i was feeling fine but till then she was angry from me . I told her that listen only for 3-4 hrs i wasnโ€™t there and its not making sense to get mad over such small stuff but she was like why canโ€™t you consider the fact that im angry and im like babe thereโ€™s no reason to be angry ! From then weโ€™ve been on and off on this topic and talking. Itโ€™s making me sad . What should i do because according to her i should accept my fault and understand and should make it upto her. But my mind is not able to understand what was my fault because i was just trying to be ok in those hrs and when i got fine , Iโ€™m in this new mess โ€ฆ Help suggest something. It just feels like i need to accept whatever tantrum will be thrown at me i just need to accept that even if the person is wrong !

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So, maybe this sounds biased but sometimes as a girlfriend, I also get a little silly expecting things to only go my way, and maybe throwing an occasional tantrum just because I can. He gives in sometimes, knowing that Iโ€™ll get okay and that I wonโ€™t just be unrealistic about my expectations. And then I genuinely try to get better not expecting him to make my mood better. But sometimes if Iโ€™m being difficult, without a reason, he tells it to me straight so that I realise when Iโ€™m being immature, if I am. Point being, he gives in to my tantrums sometimes, to a certain degree. He doesnโ€™t encourage them, but plays along sometimes, to a certain degree. But isnโ€™t afraid to call out my bullshit, if Iโ€™m just being plain stupid. So, I guess, find a similar balance for yourself!

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I am biased too in this. But its true that as a girlfriend I expect this from my guy. I expect him to be there for me always(means always). Even though I donโ€™t fight about it, it still makes me sad and I say it to him at the end anyway. He might try to argue. If he argues then it becomes big. But sometimes he says sorry and thatโ€™s what we expect. Just to accept the face that we needed you and you were not there and we have the right to feel so. And for sure I also end up apologizing if it hurted him. Its ok to fight. But learn from it. Say sorry and then explain your situation.

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