Feeling empty inside. I got engaged recently. He loves me (or as he claims) but I am not getting the vibe. Everything is looking so perfect. You know like, too good to be true. I smile with him laugh with him but I think I don’t love him. Today when I woke up I just cried like hell. Still crying and I don’t know why… what is it that’s eating me from inside. Or I am getting mad!!!
Did you have past relationships prior to this engagement ?
No I have never been in a relationship. This is thing I was waiting for so long but when it is finally here I am just not able to accept it. Are you understanding ?
Since its your first relationship i think you might have had certain expectation about relationship and marriage and reality doesnt seem to match with them. Since its your first, the other case might be that youre worried if he is the right person for life long commitment? (Its natural and understandable reaction) . It may also be because its your first time adjusting and incorporating a relationship and a person like that. When you habe been single for too long, adjusting to a new relationship takes time and also change in mindset sinve we get used to certain freedoms with singlehood that are not available to us in relationships. Any of these might be the case. I would say simply spend more time with the guy and this will sort out :)
Dunno y u r feeling like this. Maybe you had different expectations. See love and understanding happen gradually. Building any relationship takes time and patience. I don’t expect you to be head over heels for him. But think about the future. You have to have a life with him and Start a family. All this takes a lot of time. So sit and see what exactly you want. Sometimes we all r blinded by the societal claims of love and marriage and relationships and we won’t know what we actually want. So think clearly now. Weigh your options. Take a decision.
I know you are scared. It’s Ok to be scared. This is a new step in ur life. Marriage and all. It’s Ok to be worried. But think with logic and understand what you need. Much love
I need love respect happiness. But the way he is showing love is suffocating me. How can he fall in love with me so fast.
Ask him the same question. And see what he answers. See some people happen to fall in love very easily. Maybe he waited his whole life for someone like you.