Exactly a week ago my boyfriend with whom I had the most perfect relationship broke up with me. I say perfect cause we were veryy healthy, we barely fought, we were compatible and good for each other. He dumped me because he started having feelings for someone else and he didn’t want to feel like a cheater anymore. Now here I am suffering from anxiety and depression. I woke up and the anxiety started building up. I just don’t want to feel like this anymore
I guess that is the silver lining that he cared for me enough to do this before it got worse but it really hurts
I’m happy that you were able to type it out here. It’s a fresh wound the more you try to ignore it the more it’ll hurt, if you feel like crying you cry, you can go to your safe place or a friend whom you feel you can talk to. It’s a slow process, brace yourself and if you ever feel like letting it out people here are extremely helpful :)
I am grateful to this community but this anxiety. It is soo difficult to find strength everytime to deal with it
You can always drop a message, it won’t make much of a difference but happy to help :)
Thank you ❤️
A problem shared is a problem halved. Find someone suitable to tell your story. They might not help you in any real way but when you recount your plight and events, you might stumble upon some new insight that’ll help you gain confidence and also see where you made a mistake or why the relationship was shallow. Talk to a professional therapist; it’s gaining ground in India of late. I’d recommend crying, as much as you need to. Tell your parents about it if you can. You don’t have to be alright or put up a brave front pretending you’re well. It’ll only make your loss more intense. The more you suppress the longer it’ll take for you to come out of your predicament. Trying to temporarily turn a blind eye by keeping yourself engaged is one thing, but since life is a business of making memories and I’m sure as any that you cannot undo this business, they will come back when you’re least expecting - which is what memories do. And what then? You will face it sporadically. Instead, I’d rather you come to terms no matter how long it takes.
Know this, Anushree, it is perfectly natural for a person to develop feelings for multiple people but not at the expense of a standing promise - your relationship. :)
Somewhere I have forgiven him and that does help me to heal but it’s like he was my person we both still have feelings for each other and now to accept the fact that we both have to let go of those feelings hurts
You have forgiven him because he prevented the worst from happening. That’s only a small consolation for the loss. I must applaud him for his honesty but not for his attitude, do you really think that counts? Think about it and see if that doesn’t make you indignant.
He is at complete fault here. But somewhere once I am out this relationship I can see that maybe he did this because he has commitment issues. He is a very strong headed person, he doesn’t allow anything to screw with his mind so when he saw that we were getting pretty serious he took an exit
Now give me one good reason why you should have a soft corner for him. The time you spent together believing you’ll stay that way for a very long time, provided the circumstances are conducive, amounts to nothing? And all your wishes are bashed because he is now fancying another person? No matter how much you love each other, would you accept it if one day you’re told this despite having a healthy bond for this long?
What you start your relationship with, no matter how eccentric it is - some people like open relationships, some like polyamory, while many others want the traditional way - is a promise that must be kept by both parties and there’s reason to quit if the bond turns sour in between. But when the premise was set and you were going normally, abandoning it for someone else especially when everything was going good, is unacceptable.
Hey, my boyfriend of 6 years broke up w me too a month and a half ago, thought we were perfect for each other.
I know exactly what you’re going through, the way string anxiety hits in the morning or even the whole day, you don’t feel like sleeping cause you’d end up dreaming about them, the depression and pain.
Don’t worry you ain’t alone, it’s tough but we’ll get through it. There was nothing wrong with us, it’s their own issues. Be glad, you now have the area to explore. The pain won’t go away but it’ll subside with time.
I’m here if you need to talk 💕