Early this year I got into a relationship and a few months later he called it off. For a long time after that we didn’t speak much and when we did he was a real dick to me. I was so fucking broken. But I’m better now and not 100% over him but I know I love myself more than I love him. Recently tho we started talking again like we used to. No awkwardness etc. And it was going fine up until now coz he’s been so caring and sweet and I’d forgotten how nice it felt to have someone give a shit abt me. I’m afraid I’m gonna fall too hard for him again and he won’t feel the same way. I’ve promised myself that imma use my brains n try not to act based on emotions. 
I don’t really need advice just needed to rant :-)

Love

i am feeling soo confused right now...i am in a relationship with this guy i really love him i dont want to loose him...but when i think from my family basis they all dont like him at all...his family is really sweet with me and in past whenever we used to talk about future i used to get excited but now i feel stressed...i think somehow we are from different background and i am so attached to this guy...he also love me alot he doesnt want to loose me but he himself said if you are not happy with me dont do this..i dont know i dont want to leave him but when i think practically there are so many things which are different in us...i am so confused about this relationship...i dont know what should i do...at times i feel like let it be as it is but then it is not only about me there is one more person who is getting hurt coz of me...

Relationships

First time here. My friend is down bad, he’s an addict and clinically depressed. He takes therapy once a month, but slips every 2 weeks. My words now hold less weight and I guess he now likes his misery as it brings him attention. A part of me wants to give up helping him, other part says fight with him. Anyway, here to ask for advice for one last push and support. Please share your advises or experiences. After this sprint if thing’s don’t work out I have made my mind:- “If a person wants to change he will make efforts to change”.

Thanks for reaching this far.

Addiction

My boyfriend is feeling low and is unhappy with his job. He enjoyed the job a while ago but now he is confused and generally unsatisfied. He's confused about his future and his long term goals. He doesn't communicate his feelings unless I pester him into opening up. How do I get him to open up and how do I make him feel better. 

I am thinking of calling my ex... and ask him to be friends is it a good idea?

Breakup

idk what to do, I feel like I'm a bad person, my bf is not happy with me, he says it's suffocating for him, whenever I try to tell him what's wrong how am I feeling and what's hurting me he just put the blame on me that you never accept your fault you blame me for everything you show your real side during arguments you manipulate me you just say things never prove them, he believes that he's the only one putting efforts in the relationship but the thing is he did when we were not in relationship he was a complete different person when we were not in relationship he chased me and when I said yes, after few months of relationship he don't listen to me he don't let me talk or I can say let me complete what I'm saying always say that I'm wrong but I never accept that I'm wrong, and now I feel like I'm the one putting efforts only, okayy I agree I used to say that I'll leave you if you did anything wrong with me and that's because of my past, I don't trust boys but still I'm with him trying to understand him and love him the way he wants to but there comes another issue that's my past, he has problem with my past, he has a problem with my bestf even tho I don't talk to my bestf just because he don't like it, I have no friends except my bf and he also know this still he don't trust me, I don't look at any boy, I'm fully loyal to him, I was only one when things were wrong, I used to make sure he eats properly, he's okayy, I used to stay out with him late nights whenever he needed and now he says that what have you done, you just did 10% of what I have done for you and I says that's because you wanted me that time it was necessary to show efforts because you wanted me to be with you I never wanted that, and now when he knows that I'm attached to him, I can't leave him, he's saying you are 90% wrong and you will save this relationship and I'm not going to do anything this time as if he saved relationship everytime we fought, it was because I stayed there even after every fight and what he did a couple days ago, I was in a function trying to pretend that everything's alright and at night he texted me that he's done with me and with everything, I was very angry I said a lot of things so did he, but now he's offended or I can say he's upset that why I said that just after your breakup you chased me you forced me for this relationship and you say you're not this type of guy who move on to girls one after other , even tho he said much more worse things like you're always like this, you're not real, you play victim card , it's better to leave you because of your behaviour, it's very suffocating with you because you don't let me do what I want to like tf bro you do things which are not acceptable publicly you should look at your tone and your voice you cannot shout at me in public you do things which make me feel embarassed sometimes and when I say I don't like it then it's wrong, he says I'm dominating only in arguments , as if he didn't know it in the beginning he knew me very well, he was completely aware of all my red flags still chose to be with me and now all of this is  bothering him, I feel like I'm wrong everytime, he makes issues of things like when I deny to meet him just because I want to to my work and study then he'll create an issue and after sometime will say oh okay I understand and will send me reel like if she do this she don't love you, etc etc shit, and on the other side he leave my messages on seen sometimes, he makes me  feel like I'm extending the relationship, it's like he's being with me so that he can loose his attachment with me and then will leave , I'm disturbed with all this, I want to save this relationship because he's still the best guy, inspite of all the fights and arguments he give me princess treatment like fr , he understands me but not that much but still, I'm so in love with him, idk what to do, how to make him feel happy, he say that you don't keep me happy only I do , I'm not satisfied with you, and after giving him everything I had I feel like I'm not enough for him, I told my family about him, after our recent fight I cried whole night my lungs were hurting I was not able to breathe I was having panick attacks because he said he's done and I'm his enemy now,, after typing this message he deleted it , I called him I cried a lot , that night was horrible and now I'm trying to make sure he feel happy with me, trying to do whatever possible thing so that he feel okay because he said he can never move on from me and he also want to save this relationship he's trying too to forget whatever I said but it'll hurt him forever, we both want this relationship but things always get worse whenever we fight, idk what to do, i literally don't know

Anxiety

Let’s talk about it! 

The guy I like tells me that he likes me and talks a lot to me over call than over text. Calls me nautanki and knows how to make m laugh when I’m angry or something. But there are days when he has his withdrawals and then he barely talks like no phone calls and vvvv restricted text messages. I don’t know, what to say about him. I’m literally into him but there are times when I think that he is into me as well par Kabhi Kabhi lagta hai nahi he’s not into me. 
What should I do ? 


3am Thoughts

me and my boyfriend are in a relationship from the past 4years now, its been great, he's the nicest guy I've known. So earlier in our relationship he told me that its really difficult for him to open up and talk about whatever he is feeling... I tried to understand him and I thought as time will pass he will be able to open up to me, which he did... he told me stuff about himself which he hasn't told anybody before. although when it comes to day to day life, he cant seem to upfrontly tell me if something is bugging him or hes been struggling with some emotions.... which leads to confusion in our relationship.
basically the issue now is that he cant speak to me about his feelings and it sort of is my need in a relationship to speak to eachother to feel connected to him.
I have been sort of patient for 4 years thinking he would talk to me, but he can barely speak about his feelings like once in a blue moon. I am scared if he will ever be able to talk to me or will I just be wasting my time in the hope of him trying to speak to me about his feelings and his real self.
should I be more patient or should I move on?
he does say he is trying and he loves me alot and I love him too but I'm just scared what if he is not the kind of person who will ever enjoy speaking about himself? 

my partner is so loving & caring ...he take care of me a lot even though v r in long distance relationship...he cares for me,he love's me about what i'm...but some of my frz say's i should change myself for him..i should apply make-up and  to be mature ..he say's he loves me d way i'm ...i don't need to change myself for smone..he say's i'm immature but as d time wl pss i vl be mature enough to understand....he love's me a lot ..but now what should i do ...shall i follow my frz advice or be who i'm...

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