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Ansuman @itscompliclate

Don’t know what I am feeling now. It’s really very hard . My girlfriend told me she wants a break , she is unable to took pressure of both studies and relationship. I asked she will come or not she said there is no guarantee of that . She told me that she didn’t want to give me fake hopes . I request her a lot to stay , she told me that she will stay but she will not be Fully indulge in the relationship and if she feels she is unable to continue , she will leave forever.
I agree, I told her that I will never let her feel that , she will score also . I don’t know how I can do to rebuild the love and trust
Please give me some advice .

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yash khatri @yash777

First start with helping her in studies and dont be a distraction to her in studies be a motivation but dont say study everytime make her relax also

Ansuman @itscompliclate

Should I stop texting her ? Or should texting her only in imp time or topic.

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yash khatri @yash777

No dont stop

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yash khatri @yash777

Can you guys study together?

Anonymous

Yeah we r in same college, same coaching

Anonymous

Do what she says… Give things a break she have her things going on… U also focus on yourself for the time being coz if i be honest if u ll keep asking to her sort things or anything… It will be somehow a burden for her… Move slowly u have alot of time…

Ansuman @itscompliclate

I will give her but she told me that there is no guarantee of her coming back but she will do her best.

Anonymous

Is there anything else u can do? Nope so u trust her and go with the flow… And in the meantime u just focus on yourself (by not being toxic anyhow)hit the gym, study etc

Anonymous

Hmm right , I should support her without in a relationship

Anonymous

Yesss and love urself this can be hard but u got this.sending good energies there

Anonymous

If I support her without in a relationship, this will be more selfless and she could she the efforts.
There will be a chance, she understand and come back again
Till then
Expect disappointment and u will never be disapointed.
Thanks 👍

Anonymous

Tell me one more thing
What if I don’t give her the break do al the efforts
What will be the consequences?

Anonymous

She ll eventually get drained and feel mpre pressurized and then will break up… Then misunderstandings will start and things can be draining for u tooo

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Anonymous

Safest Excuse to leave someone .

Anonymous

Really?
Is someone did this to you?
Please enlighten

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Anonymous

Ya u r right actually…if she loves uhhh then she will never say ki tum uski study ke beech aarhe ho …she will try to manage both tha studies and relationship …and if u r too talkative and everytime u just calling her or texting then it could be a distraction to her …

So u have to decide …becz u know her very well…what kind of she is …
# bestofluckforahealthyrelationship

Anonymous

Hmm u r right
The thing is that
Her family always compare me with her
She got less marks than me so her family taunt her always
She got frustrated
That’s why she wants to end the comparison
She wants to know how will be her result if she is not in a relationship

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Anonymous

Yes, noone is that much busy, it’s just about priority

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Anonymous

Forever is a lie . People say alot of big things but in reality they don’t mean anything. They just say something to make you stay . Noone is studying 24 hours, working 24 hours etc . So it’s just excuse brother. If she will get attached or attracted to someone, she will manage her time from busy schedule. It’s just about priority. Tell me one thing do you talk to 20 girls or more than that?

Anonymous

No
I am an introvert actually
So very few girls are there in my circle

Anonymous

I will not feel bad if she told me this thing earlier in the honeymoon period
But when the relationship is long
And I gave so much effort to sustain
I give it more importance than me
Then it is very difficult to accept the separation

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Anonymous

Actually my question is that you won’t talk to 20 girls or more than that , the reason is simple it will consume your time . So what you will do is manage and save your time for your girl. But let suppose if you will talk to 10 girls , and every call is like 5 minutes then you are spending 50 minutes of your precious time for 10 different girls , and if your girl will call you after these 10 calls , you will surely think that you should study now as it’s already 50 minutes since you studied. Got my point brother?

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Anonymous

It is tough, but everyone have to go through this. Take another example man, if i will be a girl / boy being in relationship with someone for 3 years and then suddenly I slept with someone else due to attraction or whatever, what do you expect from me? Do you think i will come to you and confess that hey love sorry i slept with someone let’s breakup. The answer is no. Noone leaves us by accepting their own mistake, they just choose safe option which includes emotional defence, family, study , or you deserve better, it’s not working anymore, ,or by playing blame game like you weren’t my type, we are different, you were possessive, bla bla .

Anonymous

Yeah got it

Anonymous

Hmm it’s tough

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Anonymous

Bro whatever she said is just an excuse. Take her excuses as a sign . And please take these signs very seriously. It’s the time when you should tell yourself ( including your heart and mind ) that you deserve better and you have to leave her asap. Don’t beg to stay. Don’t ask for her time. It will be a tough decision but trust me she will surely regret one day. In this modern time it’s hard to find emotional person like you. If she still choose to leave you, set her free. She will cry one day. Am with you buddy. You are a nice person. Take my advice seriously. From this moment the more you will delay the breakup or break the more will be the memories and memories= pain. Take care.

Anonymous

Thanks a lot.
I will do
I should focus on myself and my goals
I gave a lot to sustain this relationship but I don’t think it will work
It’s my first love so it’s becoming more difficult to me
The promises she gave and the dreams she showed me had taken me to a another place
I sacrificed a lot for her but she never understand
Why don’t understand
In future
I will never accept any promises seriously.

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Anonymous

You know why am writing a paragraph for you, cuz i can feel you man. I also loved a girl, she was also my first love. My relationship was longer than yours. I know how it feels. It will be a tough thing to keep yourself busy. But you have to do it. I don’t know your biceps size but please the next time you feel like crying go to the gym, grab a dumbbell and remove your frustration there. It will surely increase your biceps. Oh am not done yet, you will still feel crying after this bicep workout, so what man? Did you just forget you have legs , shoulder , etc. Come on just show your anger, frustation, emotions there on gym. Grow yourself buddy. You are a gold now but you are broken, mend yourself and make yourself platinum

Anonymous

Thanks a lot buddy
It helps me a lot
If you don’t mind
Can you share
What ur girl told you or what was that reason she gave you when she left you

It will help me a lot
Thanks again for your words

Anonymous

Also told me
How you respond and
How you move on

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Anonymous

She is being true to you , first of all taking break in relationships dose not mean love will go forever , if studies are her real reason she will be back , when she will feel , she ready for handling both or if it’s just an excuse , she will leave you in any way …

Anonymous

Did you also face this situation?

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Anonymous

Yes , it was my boyfriend

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Anonymous

Same exactly same situation

Anonymous

Just tell me how you react at that point
And how you move on?
Did you beg him to stay?

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Anonymous

Help her in her studies if you can. A relationship should also lead to emancipation

kartik @cannon

If one truly loves you, theyll have time for you. Even if they do not have time for you, theyll not break the relationship. If that person is quitting the relationship then you need to know that she wasnt so serious. It was just a casual thing where she had attraction for you and felt good about it. But she never thought it as a long term thing… So, listen to me carefully. Save you pride and dignity and quit. A forced relationship will not last long. She has directly expressed it through actions and indirect words. Be a man, follow you grind and bang someone else in the meanwhile. Stop begging for love. I know it hurts, but it’s liberating. Wait for the one wholl truly love you and walk miles for you… till then enjoy your hustle

Anonymous

Hmm , u r right
It’s very complicated

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