DNA- Donβt talk to women, No women will ever be interested in you, avoid eye contact. This should be followed by every below average short weird guy.
First of all no one weird. What makes a guy attractive is how he treat a women. Iβm a women I can say on behalf of other that we fall for a guy who treats us with respect and care. And when he does all of that. He automatically becomes the most attractive guy we could ask for. I know exceptions are always there.
This is only partly true, looks are more important and good looking and being tall are green flags. If youβre a below average guy then itβs better to accept that you donβt deserve a relationship.
I know half of the people judge each other by looks but the other half donβt. Believe me looks matter only for a week. We always want a guy who has more than just looks. You know you would also want a girl who is kind caring rather than just being beautiful. And itβs better to get into relationship with someone you can see a future with.
I donβt want any woman because no woman wants me or even interested in being friends with me, i donβt even know how to talk to women. Am not good looking nor do I have the flirting skills, just a weirdo who doesnβt fit anywhere.
Why do you wanna fit with someone you canβt match your vibes with. Ainβt itβs better to be alone? Than being with so called friend. And is it wrong to be a weirdo. Iβm also a weirdo. Everyone is. Itβs fun. You donβt need flirting skills to get a girl. Dude youβre perfect the way youβre. The right girl will find you eventually
I donβt wanna fit in and I never fit in any group, donβt have a lot of friends and women find me weird and boring so now I avoid them and being weird is only βcoolβ for social media , in real life no one wants to hangout or spend time with a weirdo, i am weird cause I am schzioaffective with bipolar and have a plethora of other mental issues. Am not normal in any sense and donβt have a normal life. Women get disgusted when I make eye contact with them, am not looking for a miracle by posting this here, just overwhelmed and really sad at the moment because of how my life is going and how empty I feel, i donβt even have a friend to call and talk to.
Donβt sweat what everyone thinks! The coolest people appreciate someone whoβs genuine, and that includes you. Making friends can be tough, but there are awesome people out there who share your interests. Maybe we can brainstorm some fun ways to meet new folks together?
Itβs very tough being vocal about your mental health, are you getting any treatment?
Youβre just saying that I am cool and fun to hangout with just to make me feel better. Idk any ideas at the moment, I am feeling very low and sad. I donβt have any friends to open up and certainly never had any female friends cause I am not even worthy of friendship with women.
I am taking regular medication for my illness and also talk to a psychologist twice every month.
I tried making friends in college but it never evolved beyond Casual classroom hi-bye friendship, never was anyoneβs close friend, no one calls me or checks on me. This is why I say there is something fundamentally wrong with me.
No Iβm not saying this because to make you feel better but I can relate tbh. I spent my 18 years thinking about how bad I look and thatβs the reason why guys or other girls donβt talk to me but than I found no itβs not. Iβm not the problem. But theyβre not my people if they donβt see my worth. And no one remains constant for life. Different people support you at different phases of your life. And thatβs it. You will remember them that they were with you at that time. We canβt hold onto someone for long. And we have to accept that
Am sorry you had to go through that, hope your feeling better now. Unfortunately for me I donβt have any long term or short term friends, am not worthy of friendship, just destined to be a loner. No one wants to be friends with a mentally ill weirdo, thatβs why everyone leaves and Iβve seen people having long lasting very caring friends so what you said isnβt Universal.
Thatβs how most of the friendships are in this world. If I talk about myself. After I stepout of my college I forget the people I was with in cllg because I get stuck by my own life so much itβs hard to stay connected. Life goes on so do people.
But I donβt think youβre in my situation, you must be having friends to hangout and talk to on the phone. i donβt have any friends and I am 30 nearing 31 in a few months and I have given up on all this friendship, romance stuff. Itβs not meant for me, I am not a normal human being, just a weirdo who doesnβt deserve anything , nothing special or cool about me. So sorry to waste your time and energy.
I have also seen people who are almost alone without any support they donβt even get their family support. I know how you feel when you canβt share your thoughts with someone. Spending night with your own thoughts is the hardest shit. And youβre saying that no one wants to talk to mentally ill people. You can see people here. This is a site for that purpose only. I like talking to people here. I find genuine people here
Iβm not wasting my time. I know I canβt relate to you on that level but I understand your situation how you feel.
I posted here many times both anonymously and otherwise but apart from a few empathetic words no one else Cares, itβs hard to explain what I am feeling right now, I am at my lowest and the voices in my head are telling me to accept my reality which is Iβll be a lonely miserable guy, love is not for me, I never dated in my life nor been a close friend with any women. Itβll never happen to me( i was optimistic before but not anymore) they find me creepy, weird and not good looking and itβs not their fault. Itβs what I Deserve, i am not of a good character nor do I possess a great personality. Just a nobody who isnβt worthy of anything good. I am just wasting everyoneβs time here as well.
Itβs important to remember that negative thoughts can be overwhelming, but they donβt define your worth as a person. Everyone deserves love and companionship, and itβs not true that youβre destined to be lonely or miserable. Itβs okay to have moments of doubt, but please know that there are people who care about you and want to see you happy. Your self-perception may not always reflect reality, and itβs possible that others donβt see you in the same negative light that you see yourself.
What about your family? Your parents
They are good parents but I am not comfortable sharing my emotional problems with them.
You can write down your thoughts and feelings can indeed be incredibly therapeutic. I do it most of the time and it feels light. If you ever want to share what youβve written or discuss anything further, Iβm here to listen and support you along the way.
Everything thinks low of me, there are people who think I am mentally retarded, there isnβt anything to consider as positive in me. Why would anyone want to be friends with a mentally ill weirdo, why would any woman even if she isnβt interested in physical appearance want to spend time or even get to know a mentally ill guy? Am not good at anything, just a failure in life. And right now all I can think of is negative thoughts, i messaged my therapist booking team but they are not available till next week, so I donβt have anyone to talk to. I am fed up, i have a collegemates wedding to attend tomorrow, Iβll be even more miserable, i donβt know how to communicate with women or be presentable and for that reason Iβll avoid eye contact else theyβll feel creeped out and I hate the question of when Iβll get married, i feel they all deep down knows I am undesirable and not worthy of relationship and just asking to make fun of me.
Thank you for saying that, but I donβt think you will find me very entertaining. Youβll regret talking to me and just end up stopping talking to me, itβs not youβ¦ i just donβt even deserve any basic human connection.
See wedding as an opportunity to challenge these negative thoughts and beliefs. Try to focus on the celebration and connecting with friends rather than putting pressure on yourself to interact with women.Remember that everyone has insecurities, and youβre not alone in feeling this way.
Iβm not here to entertain myself. I have been using this site since 3 years now. I met great people here and worse also but I donβt regret any.
We can connect also if you wanna
I am already under a lot of mental pressure already and weddings have always been a nightmare for me, i donβt look good nor dress well or photogenic, i am unable to mingle freely and openly with women like my peers I tried it before but they arenβt interested, am just a boring guy and I donβt think I can take such mental pressure. Right now the voices in my head are echoing - itβs not meant for you, you donβt even deserve to sit next to a woman, if you do or try to talk to a woman theyβll get creeped out and file a case against you so itβs better to follow DNA and stay away from women. They are disgusted by you and you donβt have any attractive physical or character attributes.
You are not a creep. Negative self-perceptions can be incredibly convincing, but they often donβt align with reality. Itβs essential to challenge these thoughts and recognize your worth. Instead of fixating on what you perceive as shortcomings, focus on your positive qualities and the unique aspects of your personality. Remember that everyone has insecurities, and itβs okay to have them, but they donβt define you. Building confidence in yourself and treating others with respect will help change how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you. You deserve to feel good about who you are.
I understand all this but I am unable to create a positive environment in my head at the moment. I am having a sort of depression episode due to my schizophrenia and all I can see or think is negative.
Even though I have been a long time user and connected with a few people, they all stopped talking after a day or two.
I donβt think Iβll be a good conversationalist or be fun to chat with.
Letβs talk about something you like, anything which makes you feel better, food , movies, places anything
RAMU @rj1993
Idk, my mind is blank at the moment. Can you start? This is my Iβd if youβre interested in connecting.
We can share our problems atleast for a period
Sent you heyy
I already shared the lionshare of my problems in half an hour.
Try to talk and its okay to awkward initially everyone is awkward plus communication is another skill which we learn when we practice
I tried, initial talking is ok but no one is interested in long term friendship. They get bored easily and stop talking after a week or a month.
Well u need to try more and look chances r u try with 10 people initially and most likely 9 will be get bored leave u but there is possibility that one person hear u listen u and talk to u so try try and try
Is it you diks?
RAMU @rj1993
Diks?