dirty,shattered,heartbroken
i had been in a healthy and happy relationship for a few years. I once did a huge mistake of cheating on him when i went to abroad. i confessed to him and he gave me 2nd chance and i never broke his trust again. all of it happened approximately 2 years ago and we again developed a very strong bond. from past 3-4 months he has been behaving irrationally, accusing me of cheating again,checks who likes and comments on my pictures and all. i stopped talking to him completely. i contacted him after 10 days and whole time he accused me of doing unacceptable things. he was furious that i reacted love on a batchmate’s picture,tried to prove that i don’t react love on my other friends’ picture but why him? last time i talked to that batchmate was in april but he thinks that something is going on behind his back. he did full criminal interrogation of me,asking me illogical and weird questions and kept saying that he loves me so much but i don’t feel it anymore. he kept saying that i am a girl with no morals and i am too modern and i should be shameful for reacting love on a boy’s picture.
he was never like this before, i feel someone is manipulating him. i am scared that he is becoming obsessed with me. we are not compatible and happy with each other but he can’t let me go. his behaviour has started reminding me of my previous partner. he was extremely abusive,obssessive who found pleasure in torturing me,threatening me. is there something wrong with me? i am really scared and broken
three very important things here:
1) THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You made a mistake, apologised, and made up. That’s good, but now he’s the one making trouble with it
2) TELL PEOPLE. You have to tell your family/friends/more than 1 person that you trust about this. This guy is showing signs of manipulation and mental/emotional abuse and he sounds dangerous because of this. If he’s threatening you, you should go to the police, I know you probably don’t want a big scene, but you need to look after yourself and stay safe, protection is much more important and staying quiet is how abusers win. Stay with a friend for safety. TELL THE POLICE IF HE HURT YOU OR ABUSED YOU IN ANYWAY. that ain’t right and there are laws about these things.
3) HE HAS NO RIGHT TO POSSESS YOU. YOU ARE NOT AN OBJECT, YOU ARE A GODDESS. It’s your body, your feelings, your life. He was no right to claim it for himself. That’s not love, that’s possessive and going to end badly with jail or blood. I’m sorry if this is scary I’m trying to warn you, I don’t want anyone getting hurt, especially not like this.
He might be gaslighting you, do some research on types of abuse and again, stay with your friends/family and tell them. Stay safe and just know, YOU ARE NOT ALONE (and I don’t mean in a creepy way, I mean people are here to support you, you know?). If there’s any way I can help, let me know! Sorry if this didn’t help btw!
