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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Dear Now&Me Users, we are trying our best to process reports as fast as possible but we need your help! We urge you to report any notorious activity you see. You’ve kept the platform safe, and we need your help to continue to do so. All those users who are misusing the power of Anonymity, and posting inappropriate/hateful posts, or using the website as a dating service, will be completely banned from the platform. Let’s keep this a safe space for all.

Any suggestions from your end on curbing such activity would be highly appreciated! Feel free to make suggestions in the comments below.

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@snigdhabvk

I feel alone and i feel I’m lost.

@druggedtm

same

@tannushree

Why are you feeling so? If you want we can talk

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Anonymous

Idk but i think that when a person gets reported i would suggest that your team personally looks at their actions and if they are really harmful or not. Because people here can report a person just because they judge them or they dont match their perspectives. That would prevent people getting banned unnecessarily amd ultimately losing this platform to share their feelings. Thankyou!✌

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Nitesh @niranjannitesh

Thank you for the feedback but, we don’t ban anyone without looking into the posts ourselves.

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Anonymous

You can also add a private chat feature maybe

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@gentleboi

Yes

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Anonymous

With anonymous features

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Tannu @threyedraven

I Disagree that will just make things easy for teasers to make this place just another social media… One can always post anonymously.

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Hi Anon User,
Due to privacy concerns we have not yet implemented a private chat feature and are developing a novel solution to tackle that. Hopefully, we should be able to roll that feature out in a few months’ time!

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Anonymous

Private chat feature will be great

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Happy to hear that feedback!

@craziestsoul

I joined the platform to share those random scary thoughts. I talked to few people. Thank you for making such a platform. It helped in some sense and I am really feeling glad over it. 😶🌸

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Thank you for choosing to trust Now&Me @craziestsoul! I’m so glad the experience was helpful and positive for you! 🧡🥺

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Anonymous

Private chat will be a mistake to be honest.
Every great project will have so many troubles.
Im really glad you guys are asking user’s suggestions. Respect to you guys.
I have no suggestions but you have my support.🥺❤️💙

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Anonymous

Yes actually by adding the chat features there will be no difference between other apps and this…agreed…😌💯

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Thank you so much, dear anonymous users! Will definitely keep this feedback in mind for our future plans. Grateful for your kind words 🧡

@wie

I’ve been part of the community for a really short period, but I’ve had great experience so far. I’m blessed to be part of this community. But there have been some disturbing posts as well, which I personally felt were triggering (even if to some they might not be) and would not like to see. May be if there are filters about what kind of threads we would like to see or showing posts only from the tags we choose. I guess this could prevent us from the posts/kind of posts we do not like to see.

But, I strongly suggest that do not add direct message feature, it’ll become same as other platforms and will threaten the privacy of people. I believe the people concerned are working with their best interest to make the community a safespace. Sending love ❤️

@bubbly

Amazing ideas and perspectives. Hats off.

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Dear @wie, I’m so glad the experience was helpful and positive for you! 🧡🥺
Thank you for choosing to trust Now&Me! Can completely understand how difficult it can be to abruptly come across something that is triggering.

It is in our plan of action to work towards an individualised user experience, to let you eliminate certain things from your personal feed. Hopefully, we can release this feature soon too!!!

@wie

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dhvani @dhvanee

I’m glad you paid attention to this issue. Recently, I’ve seen people misusing the platform for inappropriate purposes, and I even reported one of them, and immediate action was also taken, which I highly appreciate. I think the community guidelines should be more prominently displayed before any person, before he/she joins the platform, so that the person gets aware that their intentions will not be tolerated here, and would decide whether to join or not accordingly. Also, whenever someone posts something, there can be a check box saying “I’ve not violated the Community Guidelines”, or something like tha so that even if a user is not aware of these guidelines, then can give it a read, and become conscious about that they’re posting is appropriate or not. In this way, from the user’s side themselves in the first place, such inappropriate posts can be avoided. Talking about your side, it’s already quite impressive that you have the report option available to all of us. Also, I believe a regular monitoring if the users are appropriately using the platform should be done. These are some of my suggestions.
Another problem that I want you’ll to look into is the constant tendency of users to ask you out about connecting on different platforms instead of this platform itself, because I feel then it doesn’t make sense having such a useful feature called anonymity on the platform if people are not interested in talking here.

dhvani @dhvanee

That’s not what I mean, what I mean is that they can have a feature for this on this platform itself, where the chats can be secured, private, and you can still report abuses and leave the chat if you’re uncomfortable, and you can even chat anonymously, whereas in other apps, you have a username, and basically an identity to recognise you. Anonymity is big factor that differentiates Now&Me from other platforms, and just to keep this factor alive among its users, I felt like suggesting this. I’m sorry if you felt otherwise, because I’ve elaborated my entire intention. Also, I obviously know nobody would suggest some platform for increasing followers. You obviously would suggest another place because you’re not comfortable talking here, so it was just out of genuine concern for the website and the users that I suggested this, so that people feel the same comfort talking here as they feel at other platforms. If I’m still wrong in your opinion, or if I’ve offended yours in anyway, I’m sorry about that, as I never intended to do so.

dhvani @dhvanee

Yeah I got your point.

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Dear @dkhandelwal65 & @tilokanimeet,
Thank you for this healthy discourse. I learnt so much from this, and am noting down so many pointers. I also applaud both of you for conducting this conversation so maturely, and putting your POVs forward, even if you disagreed somewhere. Thank you for serving as such a wonderful example for the rest of the Now&Me users about how a conflict needn’t be a fight. 🧡

dhvani @dhvanee

:)

@anonhelp

Hi @banisinghvasir

I normally assist/respond anonymously but today I won’t do that and will post from my user handle so that you know my user handle should you wish to communicate further on a few suggestions below.

I think as your company is growing more (indication of Thoughts volume increasing quite exponentially in the last few weeks) you will inevitably attract creeps from all over. It becomes an issue when you have both adults and minors on one platform with most willing to exchange social media handles that could go sideways in many ways.

I know your site well enough by now and will suggest some ideas you can actually implement (hopefully) without much expenditure in any way.

1. Some of the people that come onto this platform mean well but there is a fundamental difference between giving advise vs suggestions and it’s never really a good idea to advise as some may really take it to heart and act on it. It’s all about Active Listening which is what people really need to practise more here. You have the training materials already ready - https://nowandme.com/resources/ (Peer Counselling Module). You can create a FREE Google Docs Form and have like Multiple Choice Questions, Essay Answers & Open Ended Questions that have no right or wrong answers for those that want to be trained Active Listeners on Now&Me. The Peer Module can be used as the study module as no extra work is required here from your team. That module is good to get started.

2. If such a FREE process is offered and just as how you have a verified tick next to your name… you can offer that same thing for people that make an effort to become trained Active Listeners as well. So again here, it’s taking an existing functionality that’s already working of the orange tick and maybe giving a green coloured tick for trained Active Listeners.

3. If Now&Me Team wants to do all the legwork - that is ok as you all may have the capacity to do so in terms of time. But if you invest in trusted and again trained, verified moderators to assist you in this - this will help you in the long run. I’m not sure if you’ve reached 100k+ members here but I’m sure those days will come soon and you will need the community to fall back onto at that time. Best to get started early.

4. The Company & Platform are still too young to offer Live Chat / Private Chat as a service. Will the chats remain anonymous, will now&me have a copy of it etc etc are issues you need to consider. So please be careful on this again because - your site doesn’t distinguish minors and adults separately and all are on one platform. Please be careful on this.

If you’re able to just get the 1st 2 points implemented for now, I think Now&Me has the potential to do extremely well in India & possibly overseas as well. Hold frequent discussions with your members like us who mean well and we’ll be there for you thru the good and bad times.

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Dear @anonhelp,
I’m extremely thankful to you for this thorough explanation of the solutions you’ve provided. I also deeply appreciate your concerns. As with the others, I am taking note of everything you’ve mentioned and will keep you all involved in our decisions and what we roll out in the next versions.

Thanks again for your time, in not just helping the Now&Me Users but also the Now&Me Team! 🧡

@anonhelp

You’re welcome @banisinghvasir

Let me/us know if you need assistance of any sorts and we’ll see how much we can help out with 🙂

@bubbly

Many of them are asking for a private chat option.
Please don’t do that.
This platfom is great this way. Where everyone can talk together. This is unique. So let it be.
And yes, please try for an app.
But thank you for creating such amazing platform for us all.
You have all my support:)

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Thank you @bubbly! Appreciate all your feedback and support 🧡
Will be sure to take your suggestions into consideration moving forward!

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Anonymous

Honestly, some people are using this to just find someone to date. I’ve been using for a couple of days now but have come across many such posts. And there are a few who keep posting insulting comments on many posts. I guess there should be an option to report a profile instead. Coz you can’t keep reporting every such comment coming from a single person. This is a safe space for people like me to share our grief. It’s pathetic to see such people taking it lightly and making fun of every post.

PS : You are doing a wonderful job. Congratulations and thank you 😊

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Agreed, dear anon, it hurts me terribly too when someone misuses the wholesomeness of this platform. This is a great idea and one that we can definitely try to implement sooner than later.

Thank you for your kind words and for making Now&Me what it is 🧡

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Anonymous

I have been dating from Last past 4 years and now suddenly he feels that his friends are more important and I’m not understanding we got into a big fight and I asked to choose between them or me …he went with them . I have exams in less than a month he hasn’t deleted photos from anysocial media but he didn’t called or texted once in this fifteen days I m so stressed and depressed I just don’t know what to do and how to deal with it

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@letsfixthis

Yes , aye ayee captain… n one thing god bless u n ur family wid every happiness… u have done a lot of kind thing for humans 💜

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Dear @letsfixthis,
I’m so touched by your comment, I cannot thank you enough for your blessings. I even showed your comment to my mother. Thank you so much, I feel so blessed and emotional after seeing this. Lots of love 🧡

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@letsfixthis

Idk… It feels like u r full of kindness… n trust me, u r sprinkling it everywhere… It’s everywhere 😄, I really hope, everyone on this earth would got aid by ppl like u. N say namste to aunty, I’m sure her cuteness would inherited into u ✌️😇💜

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Tannu @threyedraven

No suggestions just waiting for a Now&Me app.

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Sorry to keep you waiting for the app @threyedraven, will let you know as soon as we can push it to live. We’re testing out a few things and giving a final few touches to the app!

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Tannu @threyedraven

No worries @banisinghvasir something good is always worth waiting for.

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Anonymous

i think u should provide dm facility too

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

got u! thanks for the feedback!!

@blahblah21

Thank you for creating this platform. It’s honestly a lifesaver.

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Thank you @blahblah21! I’m so glad you feel that way 🧡

@just2help

Hii @banisinghvasir
My every post is being reviewed… nd i dont have a problem with that but then it takes really a long time to be posted can you please do something about it … thankyou

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Bani Singh @banisinghvasir

Hi @just2help,
I apologise for the long review time. Will definitely look into the matter and try my best to resolve it at the earliest :)

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Anonymous

Thankyouu soo muchh

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