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Confused
Hi to whoever reading this,
So, alot of people might judge me but i want to let this thing out of me.
I am relationship with a person he’s very nice and all but he’s just oversensitive and i think i have made him a choice very quick. I don’t even know if he was ever my choice. One of my friends set us up. But now after years of relationship i am beginning to realise that he was never my choice. He’s sweet and gem of a person but not my choice.
The problem is that I am still not over my ex. I loved him since Forever and i was never ready to move on. And i still love him so much but I don’t think he does but still i think about him 24/7 .
Its like he has some control over me. Neither we talk or meet
We haven’t talked like in 4 years and haven’t met but the feelings for him are unchanged. Even after being with my boyfriend.
I don’t think my ex has anything for me to reciprocate but idk whatever it is .
Send me suggestions!
You need to seriously tell that person that you don’t love him. You’re still not over your ex and you’re clearly wasting a guy’s time as well as yours.
Communicate clearly to him what it is.
You said he’s a nice guy but you don’t want him then I guess you don’t want a nice man.
You should tell him before it’s too late.
Yes, I do agree with this person, your first step should be to clear everything out with your boyfriend. And don’t be with him if you don’t feel for him.
Aap sahi keh rahe ho yeha…
I have many times made him clear that I don’t feel the same way about you but hé doesn’t want to listen me and understand me
Mitr aap ex ko nhi bhul paye jab apko usse acha insan mila aur abhi jab uss insan ko pata chalega to usse bura lagega ek aur baat apko ache ldke nhi pasand kya jo ap sai pyar kre
Mitr single life healthy life 🙂
Mitr breakup ka reason kuch acha nhi hoga jarur wo inhe hurt Kiya hoga lekin jab ap jaante ho ki wo shaks apko dukh dard de raha hai tab ap uss shaks ko nhi bhula pa rahe ho aur jo acha hai uske feel ko hurt kr rahe ho to isse acha ap usko clearly bata do ki mujhe ache insan nhi pasand hai
You’re a girl supporting her just because she’s a girl.
The thing which is unfair is that AFTER YEARS of being in a relationship with the guy she said she doesn’t love him.
She has to be accountable and understanding of her own emotions.
That guy would be devastated if she tells him that she never loved him.
That’s how you create f boys who mess around.
Ye aap ne sahi kaha ek tarika sai mai bhi yehi keh raha tha unho ne kaha human emotions aur jis insan ke sath abhi wo hai uske emotions ka kya
We not you should listen. I’ve listened it already and commented.
You should learnt to know that there’s a boy who loves her since years and boys if serious plan the future.
She might easily forget him because she doesn’t even love him but give a thought at his condition.
Would you be happy if this happened with your brother?
I’m in favour of the girl communicating with the boy and telling the truth but not in favour of how after years you realise you love someone else.
If you would have been at my place you would have been equally suffocated.
The only thing that unfair is i have told him i don’t feel the same way about him but he ignores that and blame it on mu career tension. What to do then? How to tackle it?
I really want a girl’s support
I have been with him for him since these years. Because I don’t wanted to hurt him. But if once i want to keep myself first is that wrong ? And i have never done anything against his wish.
With all due respect, This was all I meant when I said that we should not judge her and listen to her part of the story. The conversation was going in the wrong direction and for that reason I deleted my comments. You were right with your point of view.
Sure, I understand everything now and it’s completely fine.
He’s trying to control you because men are a bit possessive in nature by birth.
You can connect in case you wanna share and need help.
Thank you so much for understanding me
My pleasure.
Do talk to your guy and sort things out.
Let me know if help is needed.
Can we talk personally somewhere because i really need someone to guide me
Raza Khan @thegentleguide
Certainly.
May I know where would you be comfortable?
I love Meredith and I love her terribly 
To all those saying he’s nice and I don’t like nice men. I do like nice men… but being doesn’t mean he hve to control me he crashes my friends parties in between asks for screenshots of whoever liked my stories and don’t let me go out with my friends. If this is definition of being a nice guy then yes I Don’t like nice guys.
I have even though told him so many times that i think we are not working we should end it but hé doesn’t take me seriously.
Thanks for criticising guys.
Why you didn’t mention this on post so that we can comment according to them if he is like that then he is also not a nice guy he is controlling you in short and want you to give information of each second simply remove him from your life otherwise you will be away from your friends
He’s nice in one way but bad in another way. I don’t do anything against his wish. I respect him his family but he’s never satisfied he just wants to be only available for him. Sometimes we have to shoe upto places we don’t like … some friends parties n all he says you need not go stay with me only …. My friend wanted to introduce her boyfriend to me he didn’t let me go because as per his thought process he says he will flirt with you. Why would he?
Hmmm somewhere he wants you to be under his control and not leaving you alone are you comfortable on these things
When you tell all those things to him what he tells
Ofcourse not who will be? And then he says i am possessive this is my way of showing my possesivness but this is toxicity. I loved him initially but things started taking a toll and i still didn’t gave up on us and continued to do whatever he wanted but now i am not able to handle this and I don’t have courage to ask for Break up
Just bring courage and ask him to breakup as you are also not happy with this relationship because it is looking controlling the person more instead of being possessive and even he is not trying to know what you are feeling by all these things so it is better to end this relationship otherwise you will be not happy with this relationship.
He’s not ready to breakup he blames whatever i feel on my family problems and career problems
Instead of taking stand for you or guiding you he is blaming you sorry but he is not nice for you and you didn’t told him that why he keeps blaming your family or career for everything instead of finding way he is blaming this all things will bring toxicity in relationship and on the end he will breakup if you don’t listen him…
Tell me one thing if he doesn’t talk to any girl or anything respect parents n all… is that enough for relationship to survive. Like is it enough for me to stay?
Because he doesn’t go out with girls but jaha jata h he makes friends there female friends I don’t know what weighs more
Apka relationship tab tak acha hai jab Tak ap unki saari baatein manogi jaha ap kisi mai nahi keh di uske baad apki relationship Mai darar aaogi aur agar ap respect krte ho to blame bhi to sab chiz ke liye nahi Krna chahiye na aur jaha bhi jata hai wo ladki friend banata hai aisa nahi ho ki wo apko chorkar kisi aur ke pas chal jaye after sometime or blame apko krega jaise apke parivar aur career ko kr raha hai sab chiz ke liye…
In short ap apne iss relationship sai 100% khush ho?
I am only 50% happy. But is it enough ?
No it is not enough and because of those reasons you are only 50% happy with confusion whether to continue or breakup but honestly I would suggest just break up or take time or be with that person with whom you are 100% happy without any restrictions
When i ask him to give me my space and just let me do what i want just once he say okay breakup with me but every boy will treat you like this only everyone will only be after your body and not love you and no one cam handle you the way i am handling. He makes me feel that i cannot be loved by anyone else and he’s doing me a favour being with me. He always says that i know boys no one will love you no one will accept you going out with male friends or meeting someone alone (female friends) but that’s not it.
He is telling like this so that you wouldn’t be able to break up and why he said these lines that no one will love you only they will be physical I think he is telling all his intention what he wants from you and as soon he got all those things from you he will do breakup with you and that time he will blame you again without any reason
