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Anonymous

Can brahmins marry kayastha?
My BF is brahmin and he says that his family wont allow me and accept me to marry him cuz his caste is higher then mine and there cant be inter-caste marriage. His mom also doesnt likes me, but he says this weird stuff that, he will marry another girl (above my caste) but will also be with me which i feel isnt fair to both of us (me and his future wife).

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Anonymous

You certainly need to resolve all of this as soon as you can…this is fucked up…if he’s with u nd his future wife…I guess that’s a kind of unfairness and cheating too…he needs to make a choice…he needs to understand that he can’t have everything…he need to give up something nd also that he can’t keep everyone happy

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Anonymous

We are together in this for 14 years. our relationship started since we were in high school. is this how it will end? Was i joke to him for this many years… i dont even know how to resolve this. its hard to let go of him now.

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Anonymous

I can understand it isn’t easy…but at times long term relationships also can turn toxic…its diff to accept nd move forward but at time the best thing is to let go…it may hurt now but u won’t regret later. Think abt it

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Anonymous

i will think about it.
I fought for this guy from my friends (nd sometimes even family) and rejected every guy who proposed. and this is karma. this is what i get.
and the best thing is to break-up and move on and forget about him.
but idk how. we have same workplace. how can i see him everyday and think i have lost him.

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Anonymous

It will hurt you a lot…it will be diff…but u knw it will make you stronger only…he needs to knw he has lost a gem…REMEMBER KARMA IS A BITCH!!

Glitch @glitch

If he doesn’t fight for u,let him go
Because he can’t have a two way and u can’t be stuck in that .As u said already,its not fair.

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Anonymous

Truee… but idk how to say this to him. he will obviously do what his mom will say to keep on going his family tradition.

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Anonymous

idk…i cant think anything anymore.

Glitch @glitch

If u can already see the future, choose those steps that will hurt u the less,just maybe some damage control to yourself, if we love,we fight for it,and maybe someone else will fight for u,break the tradition for u, u dont deserve the half of it,u deserve the whole of it.
So never settle for less.

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Anonymous

im currently 28. he is 29. we have 11 months gap difference. and now it sucks to know this many details.

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Anonymous

thats very true. why should i comprimise and then treated wrongy just for the guy who cant fight for me.
I should let him go for both his and my good.
Thanks for support.

Glitch @glitch

Glad to help
Wish u a clearity in this perspective.

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Anonymous

yeahh…
i wish that atleast i can remember all this next time i see him

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Anonymous

TY for support.
i never knew this day will also come someday. I fought for him for this many years but now i have to let him go. its sad but its reality.

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Anonymous

TY so much. i have very few words now to describe my emotions but i have a very succesful job and i have always made my parents happy. ig letting him go would be good for both of us. espically for him and his future.
i rlly wish someone would be out there for me.

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@malza

You deserve someone who really love you.
My grandma was on the same situation. And my grand (from a higher caste) told everybody to fuck of, and marry my grandma…
so find someone like my grandPa, you deserve it

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