befriend ex gf or nah ? what y’all think 

It’ll be good at first but trust me once she starts dating someone it will become hell for you. I have experienced this first hand I do not want to go back to that phase ever again

3am Thoughts

I really want to text him but idk what should I do 

Confusion

this is first time I'm feeling like i have not words ....he says he love me but then leave my messages on delivered for more than 5 hours...when we talk or chat he's so sweet and so nice but then don't like when I'm with anyone else even if it is a girl ...and now a days ...he creates issues about my best friend... he's like i don't like him , he's so flirty , why he talks to you like this ....i have told him many times that he's just like this ...it's in his nature ...and we are bestfs from a very long time so i know my bestf but then my bf is like you don't know anything , you don't know his true intentions ..idk why is he over reacting and because of his this behaviour , we are having arguments every other day ... I'm tired of this .....i cannot leave my bestf for anyone because he was the only person who was with me at my lowest , how can I leave him for anyone ....idk why my bf is not understanding this ....he is like people think you are double dating ..bro i know what people think but idgaf about anyone then why is he ....idk what should I do now ... I'm frustrated ...

Boyfriend

That fucker is not replying me i just asked are you fine now. 
I heard he was ill or something i don't know whether it's  true or not, but i just asked are you fine.
Can't he normally reply yes or no.
Itna b kya male ego h.

I am someone who takes a lot of time trusting people and can't really open up. I became friends with this guy say A. I somehow felt comfortable and started trusting him a lot before than I usually trust people. I told him a lot of things about me like a lot. I showed him my vulnerable side which I haven't really shown anyone before him. He didn't really share anything which was fine I guess maybe he took time because. He told me about one of his friends let's say B who liked me so me and B start talking. I still used to tell A everything. I didn't really want anyone in our schools to know about me and B talking as I don't like to advertise my personal business. I told A not to tell anyone but I got to know that he has told one of his friend who told one of her friend and many others. I was fine with this and this wasn't a big deal so I just let it go. Then one day I told him about how I wasn't sure about my feelings for B and I wanted to take time and not commit and told him to not tell anyone especially B as I wanted to talk to him myself which I did. But then after 2 days I got to know through B that one of his friends say C asked him about this( I wasn't sure and he was which made it seem like that he was obsessed and I was just leading him on). Then B told me that his friend C has a friend through whom she got to know who is friends with A so the only way that vould have gone was that A told someone. It was the second time. It wasn't that big of a deal but still I felt like if he could tell this then he may have told all of my personal things to others. We haven't talked now since a month without any reason. He didn't message and I felt like I was being a annoying if I messaged coz he clearly didn't want to talk. It's just that for some time he really made me feel that I had somebody and then just went away just like that

I am feeling sad and extremely disheartened. 
I was in a 5 year relationship. Its been over a week since he broke up with me. It was a sudden decision from his side. He said there is no future and he doesn't want to continue 😭💔. He was close to my mom and his family also knew about me. It is just soo painful to accept that the person i love the most doesn't want me back. I tried everything i could to change his mind. He blocked me from everywhere. I feel soo alone. I have been having anxiety which is why i have lost my appetite. I don't hate him. But i want to move on. His thoughts never leave my mind. We were so close. I never saw this coming. I am just..heart-broken 💔. Moving on..is definitely not easy... Not able to talk to him and knowing about his life hurts the hell out of me. I can't even bear the thought of him being with anyone else 😢. I can't believe he did this.. i thought we were forever. 😢💔

Dear Mother,

I know little tamil. Want to share my life incident which has affected both my mind and body. I was married to a stranger in an early age. It was an arranged marriage and he belonged to my caste. I agreed for marriage thinking that he will take care of me with love and affection. Till marriage, he was so sweet to me. But I had no clues of first night at the time of completion of college. Pushed by astrologer, I married him. He tried to impress me and move closer with me. Slowly he wanted to put pressure on me by undressing me and giving a blow of kisses which were so awkward to me at that moment. I did not ever know him or understand him and so wanted to create a space between both of us to understand each other and resisted sex with him. But he voluntarily forced me to sleep with him and he abused me physically for satisfying him. As he is a villager, he told everyone that I am not interested in sex. This created a disgusting feeling for me towards him. So many times, he was like a coward wanting only for sex. There is no emotional connect between me and him. But he still needs only sex. The thought that he has been abusing me is killing me. Though he is my husband, he is not kind towards me and he just wants me to stay in his house like a slave. He always shouts at me, and instructs me to sit in some corner as I am a girl. He is a brahmin boy working in temple. So he even puts restrictions to me on food and clothes. The bathroom in that house is not well maintained and hyegienic. I wanted to study more as I am a topper but they are telling that I should not study. And so wanted to look for some paying guests. Since marriage, I am earning and getting food from my own money only. They did not even visit me during my tough times or they do not even have time to listen to my interests or how they can make me happy. I am married but I don’t have a baby. This is their only problem. My husband though he says he is a brahmin, he speaks ugly words to me and threatens me that he will cut me to halves with knife and will rape me if I don’t obey him. I am not getting love towards him. And I am seeing him as a rapist and rogue. My life is totally gone. I want to lead a peaceful life though I don’t have a baby. They are not letting me live. His father is very rich in that village and he buys everything with his money and even justice. I am badly disturbed by the thought that he abused me and used my body for his desires. Though I sleep alone, he will come to me for societal pressure for abusing and misbehaving with me. They got all my belongings with them and forcing me to come and live in that house. I don’t like the way I am treated and so I want to rent a house for myself and do my studies. But my husband asks divorce from me and puts pressure on me to give a baby to him or to come and stay with him. Before God, I am saying that we are not connected by hearts and we don’t have a good relationship. Since marriage, I have been crying so badly. But those people are disturbing my life by filing a case on me to demand money. They are not letting me live. I am saying that I am very much disturbed and will come and stay with them after doing my studies and finishing my personal works. Since 5 years, they always demanded money and money only. They did not care if I am happy or not. I strived alone for food, I was thrown out when my husband told he wants to go to office and that he wants me to vacate his house at once. I did not have money at that time and struggled a lot for food, clothing and shelter. I wanted to look for some genuine ways to live my life though I am badly cheated. I really want to live my life, but they are spoiling my happiness to work out love, by putting command over me. In that house, bathroom is not well built and even if I feel sick, there is no one to take care of me. And my husband also does not care about my health. He is asking me to avoid all my interests, and telling me his mom has grown old and I should come to their house to do all household chores. I have a lot of health issues and they still use a sand stove which creates wheezhing and respiratory disorders. The atmosphere of that house is so clumsy and they even tie cows and goats inside the house. Cat is disturbing by jumping over me during periods time, I cannot sleep peacefully. Insisted them to look for a house for me. But they resist and say that I should only stay in that house and should bear a baby. They are not having rights to force me like this. Love is a bonding between two hearts. But I was abused every night, used and thrown away. Everyone is scolding me. I don’t like to live in this world. I am getting a thought to die. Those people will not let me live. They are tearing my flesh and forcing me for everything. I just expressed my wish that I want to stay in the world that I wish to live. But his dad is torturing me and telling me to follow what his son says. I am feeling afraid and insecure. Kindly help me Mother. A girl cannot allow a man to stay close to her unless and until she feels him as the right man and she is happy and secure with him. Without having that feel, how can I go near him? I am not willing for another marriage also. Hardened my mind by assuming me as I am widowed as my husband can never give any form of happiness to me. He pulled my neck down and tried to kill me when he was in anger. He poured phenol on his mother’s mouth. But in that house, they are supporting only their son. Telling that he is not a drunkard and I should learn to live with him. I adjusted upto what I can. But they have been threatening me by their influence for money. If possible, kindly arrange some counselling as I go sexually exploited and victimized by marital rape. I cannot bear beyond some extent Mam. When my father in law calls me to that house again, I feel that I have to die if they should not disturb me. And my brother in law is also teasing me that I stay in that house for his dad is putting food. And I don’t know how to impress a husband to get the work done to give a baby for their family. He is younger in age but teases me so badly for I am worth of nothing and he pushes me out of that house. Always teasing me and kills me with words. They are killing me alive, and my husband burnt me alive by throwing me, now calling me for putting me to a hell that would destroy my mental peace, please don’t give this case to local police as they will easily escape by the influence. He was also in touch with other married girls and forced them to come and live with him. Kindly help by reply. If we are not at all connected by hearts, how I can give myself to him just for the sake of marriage and he having the license to touch me. He is not having rights to take control over me or treat me low as he is very rich. I am also a human being and his life partner to be treated with equality. Mother, I am crying every day for getting a bad husband and I was wrongly pulled in. Everyday people in that village are bringing any new person to me and telling them to beat me and pull me there to that house. They are rogues. They are not ready to spend a rupee for me, not cared for me when I was all alone when I struggled for food, and studied with my own money by part time job. Put a lot of efforts to get a honest living for me. They want to spoil my life, by staying inside 4 walls of that house without any happiness and to get used by them. Please help me.



Harassment

I am sure you feel that I don't need you anymore..but I still want you to be in my life ...I have started ignoring you but trust me it hurts me more ...I don't know what you feel, but I realized I am not even worth in your eyes of asking me how are you ..I hope mai kamzor naa padu and stay strong in with my decision...I have realized it's true if guys like you they will do everything for you but if they don't you can't do anything one sided love is not enough..the one who loves more always gets hurt

One Sided Love

Saw him after almost 2years... we are friends only from his side tho...I like him...so we talk almost daily...and I know him since college days but we weren't close that time...today we met...we had a interaction for may be 2minutes...and all I've been thinking about is this all night long...oh god this isn't right...we couldn't say anything when we saw eachother Idk may be we both were so nervous after seeing eachother all of a sudden...he went home and texted me like 10 or 11 times saying hiw nervous he was...and how he ruined the small interaction by saying nothing...now who's gonna tell him that here I am thinkin about him till late oh my god why is this happening..
I NEED TO CALM DOWN😭😭😭😭😭

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