At the end of ending my 10 year old relationship and I’ve been friends with him for 6 years before that. So In total I’ve known Him for 16 years.
Now how did we come here? Lots of u matched expectations. I always thought we are so chill but I craved for that typical date nights and typical gooey couple stuff which he couldn’t provide cuz it’s not within him to provide me that. I have started expecting things from him which I knew is not in him to provide so I’m wrong there. But my basic needs even after explaining aren’t being met. Plus we are not married yet and we thought of getting married 3 years back but our families didn’t like each other and that was another hassle for us to deal with. Now that we both know we are sinking south his issue is that we have known each other so long and known in and out and that opportunity will never arise again if we go find another partner. And our social circles are intertwined obviously so how will we face the world. There will be consequences - he says. Is that the reason I should stay? I’m just tooo numb and too lost and too sad that we’ve arrived here and not able to accept it.
Time will let you know the answers for all the questions that u have in your mind
How and when? I’m running out of patience.
Did you communicate your needs and expectations with him?
Multiple times. He says he has needs and expectations as well which are not met whenever I raise my expectations.
Is he willing to atleast try meeting your needs in the future?
16 years, it’s such a big time…is there any scope of marriage?
There was scope of marriage. But now we feel like instead of growing together we have grown apart.
What were his needs? Asking this based on your above comment
That I should accept him the way he is and his quirks and not complain about it. I should take charge of activities and planning evening and travel plans etc. I should take charge all of it.
Taking charge means financially and all???
It’s torcher not demand
You there???
No not financially. Like taking charge of plans and going out and other activities
Ok got it, can I say something?
Leave him . Not worth it . He seems like he’s using u
Lol 😂 u are wearing the pants in the relationship. He manipulated u to such level
Sure
Second question, expecting anything from your partner isn’t bad the only condition is you should share your expectations. As you shared your needs , it should be his responsibility to fulfil that as you know that we have to do certain things apart from our boundaries to make our partner happy
I don’t feel expecting anything is wrong, so don’t consider yourself wrong for any expectations or demands
Hey ,you there? Someone else replied to my comment so i commented here , this comment for post writer
Yes
Can we talk personally
He’s not attracted to u . He sees u as a friend. And u took your friendship in a wrong manner
