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As of lately I am feeling very lonely, I think it has to do with trust issues from former relationships with certain people. I have never spoken to anyone about it but it is killing me at this moment. At the weekends I have to drink alcohol every evening before I am able to go to sleep. I do have a group of friends but I don’t have a best friend whom I can share my feelings with, this is what makes me feel the most lonely. And as a man you’re not supposed to share your feelings anyway. I do have a good life (when you look at it from the outside) but deep inside I feel there is something missing but I have yet to discover what it is. I don’t know what to write anymore I guess I just need a place to vent some of my thoughts.

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Anonymous

Can understand…and relate. As men, it isn’t something that is encouraged. If not another man, maybe if you have a female friend, you can also try venting to her. But then again, not all of them care or understand. They’re less likely to make fun of emotions though. Which is honestly so sad and toxic for men. Good though, that you are making an attempt to talk about it, most of us can’t even get ourselves to do that…or even acknowledge our feelings or the fact that we’re unhappy. Do feel free to elaborate further if you want to, I’m here to listen and talk if you’d like.

Anonymous

Thanks for your thoughts, At this moment I have no female friend, I did connect with my cousin yesterday and I am going to visit him soon. This made me feel better because he is the type of guy that always took mental health issues serious. Let’s see how it works out.

Anonymous

That’s good to know, that you have a guy friend who is understanding. All the best for it.

a

If I can do anything to help or advise I’ll comment. But it’s best you get things out you’re system. Regardless of being male or female, we all have things we need to talk about. Past relationships don’t define you and we can still learn from the bad ones. If you feel like something’s missing, try to fill it yourself before trying to fill it with another person (partner, best friend etc). Like find a passion for something you enjoy or care about :)

Anonymous

Hey @aimee567 thanks for your thoughts, I think I am going to summarise all the thoughts that have been bothering and try finding solutions to them. Finding a passion is a good idea, I had a couple of hobbies but stopped practicing them a while ago. Maybe it’s time to start one of them again.

c

CHEERS FOR YOU BUDDY
In my case i just try to open up with the not close friends like friends but we not close yet, if is klop then u on track to getting close to them :)

Anonymous

Hey @clary thanks for your thoughts, yes that’s what I am going to try when I meet them again try to upon up a little bit more.

c

I feel the same way. When I was younger, I always had a best friend I could call at any time of the day. We could talk about anything, however personal the topic was.

As I get older, I’m finding that people reserve this kind of closeness for their romantic partners. But I wish I could have genuinely meaningful conversations with more people. I wish I could have a best friend again.