Am I overthinking when my gf’s ex start disturbing me by calling from hidden number and simply staying on the line by not saying a word for 5 minutes. When I hang off the call again that person keep calling me even in the middle of the night 3am or 4am. Sometimes my gf’s ex using too much of vulgar words and hang off the call. I couldn’t call back as it is hidden number. I have asked my friends to help me to meet that person in real but they advised me not to make it a big issue. This happened 1 year ago and i have blocked hidden number calls. But i received the same call yesterday as my phone updated automatically and removed blocked hidden calls and the ex started back, called me and was otp for 2-3 minutes without saying a word. When i told about this to my girl she saying i simply assuming and I feel like she is defending her ex. She always stop me when I scold about what her ex did and doing to me and always telling me im assuming things. She have chat with her ex few times when i asked her not to. She was in a toxic relationship with her ex but she used to tell me im treating her with respect and the love she felt around her, she never felt with her ex before but things is far away behind i feel. She used to chat with her ex and deleted the conversation and phone call history in order for me not to see. Should I accept in a way she is scared of losing me when i got to know about this or is she playing safe?
I think she still loves her ex not you. You should leave her for you … you are your first love. So, you first make yourself happy.
I did asked her about this few times. All she can say is she no longer in love with her ex and even promised me she will be with me no matter what. Feeling myself dumb.
Bristy @mim32
She does not want to leave you but that does not mean that she loves you. If she loved you, she would have listened to your words, she would have understood that her former deeds were wrong. All her promises are fake. You should move, at least for yourself.
She made me feel this so many times. And made me wonder is she really into me. She have threw me many times by saying I don’t deserve her when I keep asked her to think wise and not to throw words like this. But she will come back to me saying she were mad the other day and that’s what made her threw words also throwing me… thinking about how she treated me these days I feel that I should move on with my life but I’m feeling that I’m stuck here. Idk how to end things and move on with my life. Even started to install tinder to date someone in away for my feelings on her to go away but I didn’t not create any account and just end up by installing it. I wish to move forward but idk how😞
Bristy @mim32
I know it’s not so easy. Today will be hard, maybe it will take a long time to get rid of the trouble. Wait for the one who truly loves you. The same thing happened to me, I went through a lot of hardships. Although I can’t decide to get married because of the hardships of the past, Allah has kept me well.
Tbh she made me feel she is the one. I never ask her or expect her to gift me something expensive. All i want is her love, her quality time with me. Begged so many nights to talk to me, be with me but she can spend time with her friends go for a short vacay with them but when it comes to me there are always excuses. Apart from my life, Im really happy for you that you’re doing well…
