Am 43 Single mother. My daughter is 14 now and she has started questions about my sexual partners coming every other day for overnight stays. I canβt leave alone so they come to my place. I am working so I canβt take time out. I find it very hard to continue like this. And Marriage now will only cause further problems for my kid. Am frustrated with this day in day out
Menopause soonβ¦
What sort of judgement is that ? People engage in lovemaking long after menopause.
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Wow thatβs greatβ¦ I thoughtβ¦libido is less after menopauseβ¦ Sorry for judgementβ¦ I just wrote in flow π
But why to engage with multiple partners
Oh. Forgot to take your permission mommy!
Guys is everyone a Judge on this platform
Yrr aap kisike sath bi raho idc, but kid h to galt impression pdega hiβ¦ap humse Jada mature ho.
Either find one rite partner who wants to live with u
Obviously she will ask If she will see a new guy everyday, also she is at this age she might have an idea of whatβs going on.
Please explain her yourself otherwise she might hate you
Although itβs your choice but still your daughter will question you, sheβs a teenager too. Please have a conversation with her and maybe tell her whatβs going on
Thanks !
Thanks for understanding it π itβs tough !
Rahul @iamrklahari
Tell your daughter you are dating him.
Really you are not thinking about her situation at this age when you are doing this dailyβ¦ You donβt explain her tell any of your best friend to explain β¦ Please donβt introduce any of your boyfriends to your daughterβ¦ It might lead to another problemβ¦ Try to change your daily routine change
Who are you to judge
Its not judging you⦠Just saying you⦠The problem is the way people understand⦠Why you are not thinking about your daughter that is the problem
Fyi I am not the person who asked the question. I am just telling you itβs bad to judge people sitting behind a screen. She is already going through a lot. And she might also feel guilty. Donβt spoil things for her. If you canβt help please donβt make things worse.
Oops. I think communication problemβ¦ . I suggested you to change your daily life β¦any ways itβs your wishβ¦ π
No need to tell her anything. Maybe she already knows. BUT I would avoid bringing them at home for overnight stays (safety concerns)
Itβs not that I pick them off the street judge Spencer. These are people who go through list of checks and verification before any engagement. Thanks anyway
Iβm worried about your daughter not you,you never know whatβs going inside someoneβs mind.i would never allow any Man for overnight stays.
Idk whatβs wrong with everyone here. Why are they judging on THIS platform?? As if it was not meant to be a non-judgment-zone. So coming back to your question, Yes your child will ask questions about them because at that age, we are not familiar with this concept. Even I wasnβt and I am sure even you werenβt. So you just have to talk to her and let her know that there are different aspects of dating as well. It can be casual, it can be with the person of the same sex as well. And tell her that thereβs a very big world out there, waiting for her. She will meet all kinds of people. So she should be ready to face everyone and everything that comes her way. If you talk to her about it. You donβt have to go in detail but you can tell her that you have a lot of βfriendsβ that you meet and hang out with. As you donβt have the energy (or use any excuse) to have a serious relationship at the moment. She will definitely understand. The more you ignore her questions, the more curious sheβll grow. I hope it helps maβam.
Thanks π Thanks a lot ! Just for understanding it the way it is. God bless you !
I know youβll get through this well and goodπ« Enjoy your life to the fullest maβam, these people will never stop complaining, we canβt help it. All the best. Have a beautiful life ahead.
Just be your daughterβs bestfriend π€youβll do great
Okay Judge Spencer!
Joy @joyforlife
I can understand your situation. For a single mother guys are always judgemental. I think first of all you should start going to places to your sexual partners. Itβs obvious that your girl has started asking questions.
I would suggest donβt make this image in front of her, you will regret later for lifetime. I can understand you also have emotions or sexual needs but you are a mother too. Take care of this first. Sometimes sacrifices are required to build our childβs characters. Donβt make your relationship worst.
And sorry to say, you should also keep an eye on your partnerβs behaviour about your child. There are guys who will just come close to you so that they can have access to her as well, child sexual abuse is a common thing these days. I think you should always stand with your child, not the other guys just for the sake of your sexual needs.
Your Poll is much smarter than your comment here. But I understand you only had right intentions so Thanks π
Joy @joyforlife
Ohh you saw that π
That idea came from your post so itβs credit goes to you too π
And I can understand the worst things we can get is the judgement we receive from society. But I just said what I felt and what Iβve seen elsewhere. I want you to be happy but at the same time I want a bright future for your child too. Child feel anxious and angry to see something which donβt sound fair to them. She is more important for me and you can see that in my comment.
Hey,motherβ¦I think likeβ¦ itβs not good to have s*x doing everyday with strangersβ¦give some time to your childβ¦just make her happyβ¦she is growing by looking what you doingβ¦ donβt put her into sadnessβ¦
Just start enjoying with herβ¦
Try to hear herβ¦
She is a small girlβ¦ donβt make her not valuableβ¦
Giver her proper educationβ¦
And be her best friendβ¦
And also βsex is not something that can heal your soulβ¦at some point u will think likeβ¦yeahβ¦there are goodβ¦but eventually it will make you unhappyβ¦β
Have the courage to face our problemsβ¦
All the very best lady β¦
You are amazingβ¦
You are still alive today β¦
You can raise your child in a good way!!
Ohh I see. Does your parents having s** means they donβt love or care for you ? What are these peopleβ¦ How do you know how much I love her ? Seriouslyβ¦ People are Judge Spencer
Hey i didnβt meant to be soβ¦you love your girl so much thatβs why you are tensed about these situationsβ¦
Itβs my opinionβ¦no matter how you will takeβ¦just take it as positive if you can!!
Mind of children is so softβ¦ donβt hurt themβ¦ you are the only one who can understand them purelyβ¦
Mahek Rathod @m3
She is teen at this age. It doesnβt matter you are wrong are right, she is going to question you on every topic. Such as why you have to make me healthy food or etc. You can talk her with calmness, its her important phase too. Maybe you can express your point of view about life to her.
Thanks β¦
Upto you. How you deal with it.
I think capability is very needed. If you are liberal, want to go out and have sex or whatever then also certain things come with it. Such as your daughters awkard attention, and questioning.
Make a plan how-to deal with that. And then go ahead. If you donβt know that, then you have want to have all the fun of a movie theatre without any idea on how to manage the ticket. Now youβre here to get that idea.
Lifeβs most problems I feel are like taxes you pay. Also people in this platform are free minded, theyβll judge or say what they feel, I always see that.
They wonβt ever tell you what you want to hear from them.