Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

thanks for the effort. I really dont know. Im really trying to get through this. I have a lot to share but none to listen

thank you. i didnt like a thing done my brother so i pointed it out. my mother generally sets rules and all for me being a girl. when it comes to my brother she doesnt say anything. when i said what my brother did was wrong my mom just said that “he is a boy , you dont understand”

my point is not abt boy or a girl but abt right or wrong

Yes of course…it can hurt us immensely…feeling as if we are not seen…helpless…feeling…and feeling rebellious too at the same time…

But yes…you can try a thing…imagine it as if you are observing yourself…from a distance…this will help you in seeing things rationally…and with less pain…like…you are right now very close to the elephant may be just seeing…the trunk or the leg of the elephant…try to see it in it whole capacity…

Maybe your mothers should have said that differently or maybe explained it with a different analogy…but we need not prove to anybody…but yes this division is there…because our parents are also the VICTIMS OF THE VICTIM
they didn’t have the right examples…so their way of seeing things will be that way only…but now it’s our responsibility to change things…

So when things are cooler in your head…then without blaming or pointing out your brother…just put your need in front of her…and discuss things…without expecting that she will agree to all of it…but it’s good that you are initiating a conversation about it more healthily…!!!
I hope it helps!!!💓🌸

thank you

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She might be the victim. Ive tried to say it after calming down and putting in a feasible way but its as if every other thing, argument she just leads it that way. I dont feel like its my home and how much ever i try she just does a thing which hurts me the most as if hurt continues to accumulate in to a big one.