After the pandemic started things haven’t been the same for me i changed my highschool my 3 friends had a fight amongst themselves and now it’s two against one …two of them talk to eachother and to me whereas the other one talks to me but not to them …okay well it’s confusing now that I reread it… I’ll just use A,B,C as them and I’m D…A,B,C all had a fight while i was trying to fit into my new school, the fight got worse and i found out about it…i thought it’ll get resolved but it got even more worse and they stopped talking to eachother…A,B,D talk in a group chat and C,D talk in personalchat, what I’m trying two say is I’m stuck in between I don’t want to pick anyone’s side but at the same time I don’t want to leave them as C is extremely alone and is depressed and heartbroken about the fight and has no friends and I’m the only friend at the moment.I want to leave and move on as I’m in a new school and i can make new friends but i can’t leave C in this kind of state but at the same time I don’t know what to do because every time i talk to AB or C i get extremely stressed out as I’m stuck in this …A,B talk about how they miss C and wish they could go back but can’t because what’s done is done…and C keeps talking about how sad and upset and never expected that they would stop being friends again…it seems like they want me to pick a side but I can’t pick it… I’m so tired and stressed… I don’t know what to do…pls help…
Ana Banach @johnthejohn
Dear D,
In the past, I have dealt with so many fights I can’t even count. All of them were with my friends. I want you to know that fights are healthy for relationships. They test to see if, in the end, your friends stay by your side. If they don’t, they aren’t real friends.
You can tell them that you dislike all of the fighting and it overwhelms you and you just want to put it all behind you. If that doesn’t work, just remember that there are always at least 100 people waiting to be friends with you. A, B, and C will not be your only chances.
Best of luck.
Thank you so much for your advice.
Ana Banach @johnthejohn
Anytime.
