After the pandemic started things changed for me a lott…
As i was in 11th and i a preparing for neet i had cut down on social media a lot…
But gradually i started to hate talking to people…it made me too stressed…
i deleted insta and snap
i hated replying chats
i used to have a bigg group with whom i used to hang out…now they go out and post it everywhere and doesn’t even call me once…
i was the main person of whole group i made it…we were 2 friends( me n my bestie) and then we formed a group of 17…but me and my bestie fought
i also used to come out of my room when it was lunch or dinner time…( i used to avoid my parents too…because they pressurized me a lott)
I just enjoyed my own company now…before i used to be extreme extrovert but now i hate socializing…
friends told a lot that you changed…they tried and slowly left…
i was too serious about my neet and also affected a lot by the things going on.
now i don’t have any friends…as i changed my school…i don’t know anyone…
i feel alone now…before it didn’t used to bother me…now it does a lot…the friends i used to go down and play now ignores me…they say that why did you come…you go study…and taunt me…i kinda feel frustrated…they all laugh play and i am alone…i am preparing for becoming doctor so will i be caged like this for next 10 yearss…!!
i am done…i give upp
Hey.
Wanna talk?
yaaa
Sure. What would you like to talk about?
idk…i am just too confused over my life
What’s the first thing that comes to your mind?
Anything
Giving up
You said you are preparing to become a doctor.
Is that your dream? Why did you choose this in the first place? What made you think you were interested in that?
And if you like this then why do you think it will cage you?
Don’t worry I am going through the same…
One thing to understand is friends are temporary even they are your besties…
You have to just love yourself and enjoy the process of studying…
You will find the beautiful destination…
If they are meant to stay they will stay back orelse they will leave…
Start developing friendship between you and your parents…
Take a break and work on your hobbies…
Have some positive affirmations…
And love yourself…
Hope so it’s useful I am doing the same I am doing better than before
thanks
Aakanksha @sadsoul0happyfa...
Hey Buddy!
How are you feeling right now?
Firstly, Ask yourself whether you really want to be a doctor or you are just doing it because your parents want to??
Be Clear on this…
If you have any other passion and want to do that, tell your parents about it, tell them how good you will do if you pursue future in something that you really love…
Secondly, Mark my words, Only your parents will be with you till the end no friends, no romantic partner no one…
I have been in this same situation, my parents also wanted me to be a doctor, but eventually when the time left was less like 5-6 months to go for neet exam, I was clear that i dont know what i want to do, but i am sure that I dont want to be a doctor; But since I had no time to switch my stream, so I appeared Neet, scored Bakwaas, felt very bad, cried for 2-3 days, but when I was clear that Neet is not what I am made for, I started looking for various other options and now I am going to be Graduate next year and i Guess, khush hu main jaha bhi hu…
Now on the friends part, I also had a big group when i was in school and eventually it got small, small and now i am left with no one, like no one…
But, dheere dheere mujhe iski aadat hogyi.
Just speak to parents, parents kabhi bhi apne baccho ke liye galat nahi soch skte…
sachme…
Unhe batao whatever you feel, what you wanna do, and everything.
Lastly, see i dont want you to lose your friends, just because i dont have any…
Talk to them, occasionally, bond mat tutne do…
Easy raho khudpr… yeh social media bandh krke, 1 room me rehkr padhai sirf 1-2 hours ho sakti hain, pure pure din nahi…
I sorry if I was harsh while this.
Take Care
If you wanna talk more, reply this comment.
heyy…
thanks…
this made me feel better
see…i don’t have any kinda passion i mean…like pehle i dream of being a doctor but suddenly it all changes…now i am kinda diverted towards engineering but ab to 11th bhi over ho gaya cannot do anything…
i love to sing but in that feild hardky 1 out of 1000 gets a good living and my parents won’t support that
i seriously don’t know what to do
i am confused like hell…
Aakanksha @sadsoul0happyfa...
If you cant decide what you want to do…
Make a list of what you don’t want to do…
Cancel them out and then look for what you can do…
I hope it helps…
It’s not necessary that you have to be caged to achieve your dream career. And don’t cut off from everyone because it will give a lot of mental stress.
You just need to learn to how to manage your schedule in a proper way.
Neet, no doubt is a tough thing, but you equally need air and calmness.
Few years back I was preparing for my JEE exam and I did the same things which you told here, and I regret cutting off from everyone.
So from my personal experience, make your schedule right and give time to relax your mind too.
Lots of love and hugs to you❤ All the best dear ♡
if i don’t stay away i get distracted
And my 11th is over and i seriously don’t have any confidence about neet i regret wasting my parents money…
i hate my life
See, first clarify it to yourself that whether you want this or not ?
If yes, then make your schedule and stick to it, no matter what. If you feel connecting to friends or social media, distracts you then do something which you love to do in free time, like painting, singing, dancing.
Dont just stick to studies. You need to calm your mind by doing something that you love.
And atleast don’t cut yourself from your family. Go and sit with them, talk to them about anything, if only for few minutes, but do it.
You will feel relaxed doing this and you will be able to focus more on your studies.!
And self doubting is normal that we are wasting our parents money… that’s normal. Don’t pressurize yourself. Just do your best.
