After spending almost 26 years on this planet, I get a gf & within 2 weeks I hurt her, when I try to surprise her. I didnt know that my words would hurt her so much, but I did. Her words did hurt me as well, but I had hurt her as well and, she was just retaliating to my words. Now, I don’t want to lose her, as I want to marry her, but I am constantly getting bad thoughts of getting dumped even after I know that she loves me. I don’t know how to make up for it. Please help me everyone, I love her a lot & dont want to lose her.
Sugar Worker @hotworker
Be honest bro. Tell her what you’ve told us here and wing it from there, just make her feel as special as you obviously feel she is. Find a way. Doing whatever she likes on date night, etc. if you need to do her a favour back. Trust yourself, she’s obviously in a relationship with you for a reason as well, so zone in on that reason.
I did tell her about the surprise. But she was hurt a lot. She didnt talk much about it, but I am afraid, if I talk to her about my feelings & being afraid of getting dumped, she will be more hurt.
Jim Johns @iwishilovedyou
bro you dated for 2 weeks, isnt that deep.
We had just come in a relationship & her bday is next month. I wanted to surprise her for that.
Sugar Worker @hotworker
I see. Then you should definitely talk about the surprise then. Just let her talk about it alone if you can’t share your side of things too much. Just tell her to let whatever emotions or thoughts she feels about it out and stay there and listen, maybe ask her what she actually wants as well, as a payback or whatever for the hurt she felt from the surprise - put some humour in it all. But if she isn’t talking to you at all at the moment, then I recommend that you give her a moment or so, just to calm down and relax and she’ll get back to you if she really wants to address you and the relationship again. Don’t overthink it all though, she’s your girlfriend, she’s most likely not gonna jump off to another plane of existence away from you anytime soon, so relax and address the issue at hand you’ve got here calmly and it will be sorted.
Thank you for your suggestion. I will talk to her & try to sort everything out. Thanks again
Coming from a girl, the best thing to do would be to be honest, and explain it as best you can. Maybe don’t mention the marriage part yet unless you’ve already talked about it before because it can scare some girls off if you talk about it that early.
Actually, we do talk about marriage, both pre & post. Like, how would she be handling my family. What all I would be needing to do & all the stuff.
So, yeah you could definitely talk about everything to her and explain the situation fully wich is great
We did talk about everything, she is still a bit pissed off, but everything seems OK. Meeting her tomorrow
That’s good!
An update, I just had a talk with her. She said that she had forgiven me the previous night itself, when I told her about the surprise. She said that my intentions were right, but the words I used, were not. So, it is definitely a lesson for me, about choosing the correct words & think a lot before doing anything.
