A friend of mine confessed to me when i was not ready… Instead of rejecting that person i decided to learn more about them and get close (i didn’t have feelings for them). After talking to them i fell for them but they fell out of it… I decided it was for best and decided to get over it and talked to that person and we were friends and everything worked out but a few weeks back i started to feel like our conversations were being one sided (like only i was interested) so i decided to stop messaging or calling to see if that gives me some reaction but i didn’t receive anything… What should I do?
Depends on what you want, do you like the person?
Yea i do like i dont want to loose them
Ask them if they like you, what’s scary about that?
We have a close friend group and if things get awkward between us they will know
You need to decide what’s more important, the potential future you could have, or the status quo now?
I just dont want to loose my other friends cuz i know if i mess up i will and i am the type that cant make a lot of friends
Preserve the status quo then, it might suck for a while but your feelings will pass. If they don’t, pass it on to someone else lol
Why do you say you can’t make a lot of friends?
I just cant communicate very well i have a hard time saying what i really want and i easy get distracted
Try having a casual conversation about how you feel with the person, if they seem interested you can proceed or just brush it off.
What do you mean by passing it on to someone else?
I get really nervous its hard for me i cant maintain eye contact and i overthink about it a lot
Lol i meant find someone to date, it can help you clarify your feelings for the person too
I see… thank you for everything i appreciate it
Social skills are tricky but like anything it can be learned and can get better with more practice
I will try thank you
Talk to a real friend, it will also be helpful.
Yea you are right i should
U are good at this keep going 😌🤞🏻
Kaneki Ken @madie
Thank you… It helps a lot really… it just hits different when someone else tells you that
U lost anonymity nd me too ig 🙃
Yea sorry about that
Haha, i am doctor so obviously i should be good at this… I think the situation you are in, you need to have a light hearted conversation with the person you like and gauge how it’s going… changes are they could also feel the same
But they just dont want it… how should i tell them that i need it
Jo aap kar hai hai theek hai… Mene bhi esa Kiya hai fer never heard of them till now …
Aur ye bhi hai ki main sochta hu ki shayad samne wala mere se irritated ho annoying hu main toh isliye wit krta hu samne wala karega toh karunga nahi krra toh pakka wo annoyed hai mere se
But it feels wrong
Kya
Like just leaving it at that
Idk why (except me) ladki attention milte hi wo ignore krne lagte ke ab toh ye humari hi hai
But if it was like that they would have contacted me like they would have wanted that attention back right
Yesss…
But instead they didn’t and i feel like i was used
🫂 You have your 100%
One sided efforts se kuch nahi hota.
Usse ek baar krne chaho toh seedhe bolna bas…
You gave*
But that is the depressing thought that my 100 % was not good enough
You know what… meri ek dost hai hum acche dost the … bohot acche then meri tabiyat kharab ho gaui aur mene samne se text nahi kiya , par jab kiya toh bhi normal reaction ‘kaha tha kya krta tha’ kuch ni bs aa gaya aur khtam fer humari dosti khtm hone lagi now we’re strangers again
I think that is what will happen eventually with me too like we are not yet strangers but i think we will be… it hurts
Even my bestfriend started ignoring me i feel like I’m fading… Shuru shuru mein hota hai … pehle mere online na hone pe calls messages har jagah ‘kaha ho?’ but ab single message jawab diya toh bs hn ajata…
Idk i should move on or wait …
I don’t want to loose her …
I dont want to loose them too but it looks like i have to
Same in my case…
Main kyu itni jldi attach ho jata hua… I’m emotionally dependent on her …
Without her my days sucks,
Just her name poping in my notification puts a smile on my face
The same is with me… when i hear my phone ring I just hope its them but it isnt
🫂 🫂
You know she’s still online but don’t have time to respond to my message
Yea they are online posting stories and what not… I sent them posts too to keep in touch but it didn’t work
Exactly,
She send me 100s of reels in a single day but can’t see 5to 6 reels post that i shared
I don’t want to end don’t want to but don’t want this behaviour too
Just tell me na nahi rehna toh…
Itna door ho jaunga ke ehsas bhi nahi hoga
Yea ig they are not just right people for us
Wo kaha hai na kisi ne ke …
Ek ajib se kaifiyat hai… Uske bagaira raha bhi nahi jata aur reh bhi lete hai
I’m sorry this last if I’m disturbing you, can’t control my emotions
Good Night
I don’t know about that but i know what you mean
Its okay you can vent i already lost my anonymity on the conversation about so you can msg me of you… Good night take care
Thank you. Bs yehi baat hai ap bhi same experience kr rahe hao toh you already know…
🫂 Good luck and good night
I can’t
