4 days ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We only had a one-year (long-distance) relationship, but he was my first love. I always thought he would be different because his ex cheated on him but apparently that doesn't change anything (he still cheated on me). He is enjoying his holidays in Amsterdam, probably surrounded by girls, and I'm here and can't even stop crying and find it really unfair. Worse thing is I can't stop talking to him. I just can't resist the temptation and I still have hope it might work out, even if it shouldn't because he'll hurt me again. I know it was a stupid idea but we had a lot of plans for our future and now I'm kind of lost. He was my everything. 

These things happen with so many of us. What you should remember is that what matters in the end is YOU, not anybody else.

If he has cheated over you, then it's his loss. You don't have to feel bad about it. Life is not simple, difficulties do arise.

Stay strong ✨

Long Distance Relationship

So I started talkin to a guy a few months back,he is younger than me but his outlook towards life and his maturity impressed me....we kind of started talking on a daily basis....if we didn't start the conversation with a HI or smthg,,,we would send each other memes,,,,but yesterday he tried to prank me...and somehow I got really irritated that I saud few things to him like,he was 'annoying,ridiculous, unbelievable,irritating'.....

And now...I think he is ignoring me and I dont feel so good about it....just to confirm if he was really ignoring me....I sent him few memes...and he just totally ignored it....

I know I was wrong in saying somethings....but what should I do now ?



Friends

today was the worst day guyzz...!!! as i changed my school and i was in new school its been 2-3 months in that school there is a guy who has crush on me and literally i also got huge feeling fir him but today he forced me to tie a rakhi in his hand he had no more feelings for me he doesnt even care fr 🥲 my heart broke into thousand of pieces coz literally i am so loyal person ya to either him or just me but really it broked me..!! what should i do now i had much feelingss for him how should i make him regret plzz suggest guyzz gloww up i want to make him realise

Breakup

My boyfrnd and I used to chat and now he doesn't have tym for me . Whenever I chat he tells me you are wasting your tym he has plenty of things to do . And he don't share anything and won't msg me if I don't msg him first or ask something. Wht should I do

Boyfriend

Have been anyways feeling anxious and horrific with depression n anxiety.. And had a terrible fight with emotionally avoidant+ emotionally immature and emotionally unavailable boyfriend
One small thing which learn to a 2.5 until now prolonged triggering battle of stonewalling.. Rudeness. 
Denial and shut down by him and aggression
. Trigger.. Anxiousness n grief.. N fears me 
.. I am currently in his house with his parents spending the night here. 

Irs been an hour., till this very second.. He has not given a gesture of connection.vulnerability, sharing or any communication or conflict resolution . . He is very very ignorant being next to me. F*** my life. 

Really. It is filling my legs with somatic sensations to know this guy... Even until this verys second as I type this is ekdum silent and has nothing to say. No gesture.. No communication. 
Being a bf he is triggering n giving me anxiety.. Not for the first time.! Now he is looking elsewhere n sleeping as I I am. Not existing only.. As if he is invisible to me as if I don't exist. 

I feel a big void. 


Anxiety

I have a loving boyfriend. It's been an year that we haven't talked as he is living with his parents and he had told them that he is not in a relationship as he has to concentrate on his studies. So he hasn't called for a year we do text regularly. We are in a relationship though. He can call me but he won't. Is his interest gone in me?

Relationships

There is a guy for whom I confessed my feelings ..now he is behaving in a weird way .. He is neither ignoring me but he tries to be around me ....he is talking to girls with whom he never had a conversation ....like if I am talking to other guys ..he starts noticing me more ...I dont get that if he is not into me or does not want me ...why would he try to make me jealous ...like if I am noticing ...he would be talking to other girls like seriously .....as a girl I can tell our eye contacts are deep ...earlier he used to hold  those eye contacts but now  it is like after 10 seconds or something ...he looks away like he faces himself. In an opposite direction....I noticed if I walk to a different room he walks closer to that room and again stares deeply ...those eye contacts shows feelings but he is denying .. He says that he don't feel anything ....but can develop feelings for me in future ...that is very .weird but I don't understand ...what should I do ... He gave me signals that he likes me or you can say it was my intuition ...now that he tries to talk with other girls he never had a conversation ..what he is trying to do... Does he have a controlling nature or has a nature to show superiority ...

Crush

It's been four months since I broke up with my
ex boyfriend, before him I had two long lasting
relationships (4 and 2years) and I met him by
chance, at first everything felt perfect as if
every piece of us was matching and I was
scared, I didn't want to get too attached but
then I fell Inlove with him, he was older than
me and he had the life I wanted to, he used to
live alone, had a good job and we have started
to create a life together mostly because he
was pushing me talking about living together,
creating a family and many things. I've always
looked for someone who wants to settle down,
that's why he was perfect, we matched each
other, he was looking to a family and ... I felt
happy but this didn't last long. He started to
mentally abuse me, we've descriverei to have
different ideas about life and he started to tell
me that I was wrong, I was needy, I was a
terrible person and nobody could love me just
because I was jealous of him taking home his
nine years ex and maybe sleeping together or
hiding while talking with him or just because
we only could see each other during weekends

(I used to live 2hr far away from him I live in
Italy and he lives in Switzerland) and I wanted
to stay close or just cuddle in the sofa and he
kept telling me that I was needy and taking all
his space that he needed space and so I kept
asking him 'how can I give you space' and the
answer was I don't know. I kept asking him ti
talk but he didn't he avoided everything and
only spoke about space, I need space and time
for me as if it was my fault for everything.
I lost 4kg and I couldn't stop crying because I
loved him but we couldn't understand each
other anymore, he created a wall hiding
behind 'it's not your fault but it's me that l'm
stressed and tired but to issues of life'. I've
started therapy, I felt completely lost and
awful, I felt as if I really didn't serve love and I
was a bad person as if what he kept saying
was true. My therapist made me realise who
abusive this relationship was and one night I
was crying myself out because we had to see
each either the next day but I didn't have the
strength to fight another time for no reason
so I called him telling him to stay where I was

that I love him more then myself but I couldn't
go on like this, that if we want to try to be
together we should find a compromise
because I'm the only one hurt and in the end
he dated that he cared about me but he
couldn't but mostly wouldn't change for me, as
if I've asked him to change (compromises and
self space were essential for him like he could
do whatever he wanted to but I can't say a
word about it) so I've told him that it was over.
He' e asked to to pack his things back and
send him and he did the same to my stuff and
I didn't hear him anymore. Not a word.
All of this just because now I'm happy, I feel
better and my life is going on, my life at
university is cool, I'm going out with my
friends and doing a lot of activities and I feel
better but I'm still madly Inlove with him. I got
my heart broken for the first time even if our
relationship was short I've lived with him, we
spent time together, I've designed his new
house (I'm an architect) and after we broke up
I did a lot of things that he said I couldn't
because I wasn't 'enough' but still I want to tell
him that I did them and happily hug him and
kissing him and staying together just chatting
and watching anime as we did when we first
met. I can't hate him, I can't forget what we
dated and I can't go on. I keep thinking about
how much he made me feel bad but I can't
forget the beautiful times that we spent
together walking along the lake and going
home, cooking for him and see his smile or
making jokes that only us can understand. I
miss him and I don't know what to do.
Sorry for this long message, do you have any
suggestions on how I can get over him?


Love

I relapsed. I broke no contact from him. It had been four months. I texted him through an app that didn’t use my phone number because he blocked me everywhere. He blocked me because there is a restraining order protecting me from him. 

A lot of things have happened since we started talking but one of them has been the thought of lifting the restraining order. Why do I feel like I need to talk to him? He did hurt me and I was scared but he was addicted back then. There’s no way he has fully recovered. What am I doing? 

He keeps saying that I’m selfish because i want him to talk to me. I’m selfish because he’s risking jail time and coughing up more money to his attorney. So what does he get in return he asks? What is something he can get that will prove to him I won’t fuck him over and make him feel like he can be selfish too. 

This probably makes no sense but I have no idea what am I am doing or why I am doing it. 

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