3 years ago my boyfriend had broken up with me because he wanted to focus on his career. I pleaded him not to do so but he did anyway. It was a very bad phase of my life but after a few months I was moving on, my friend set up me with a guy casually to help me move on. Just after my boyfriend got to know about this, he wanted me back in relationship, I did not want to go back after what he did so he persuaded me. I was in very much confusion and with time I thought of giving him a chance and I was also friends with the other guy. One day I kissed the other guy and confessed it to my boyfriend later, till date he keeps me reminding of the fact that I cheated in him. Who is right and wrong in this, please help.
So you kissed the other guy and ended up with the first after that… hmmm
No I am still in a relationship with my boyfriend. At that moment I was still in a confused state as to what should I do, I did not accept my boyfriend completely.
Do you accept him now.
Yes I love my boyfriend and it’s been 6 years with now, but I get hurt when he brings up this thing, I have never been a person who cheats, so when he brings up this thing I get anxious and hurt.
Did you share all these feelings with him
No but he knows it, I am sharing it here because just a few minutes ago we had a fight and brought up this conversation.
(Ps- He is insecure and a little controlling) That’s what the fight was about.
Hey hey,don’t talk to him when you guys are fighting .
Talk to him when you both are cool.
I think when a person is in anger there are rarely receptive about others emotions.
None of you are wrong or right, feelings doesn’t have a clear boundaries not it comes with a expiry lines, life is grey, talk things him out.
You cannot help anything done in past though if feelings are mutual, you can always make you two together for future.
If it isn’t hard to leave you for once
Then i wouldn’t be hard for him to leave you again but this is confusing. You should find a female
Honestly you did wrong.
In relationships things happen you lost the flow of your love with your boyf the day he gave up on you with career thing its not necessary that relationship would bother you during perusing your career.
Now the final question with who do you intend to continue with as long as possible
Thanks for your honest answer, I am still with my boyfriend, it’s been 6 years we are together, but the moment he brings this up I get really hurt
Talk it through with your boyf tell him how much regret the thing you did in past…past cant be taken into future with you if you do its become chaos to both of you…much love to both of you…i would pray that he understand things better if he’s mature enough to leave unecessary things…lots of love to both of you again and all the best for future ❤