Just like maintaining physical and oral hygiene is necessary, so is maintaining psychological hygiene for clearing and healing emotional wounds.
Here’s a piece on what emotional hygiene is and practical ways of spotting and stopping the issues.
1. SPOT YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL PAIN
Just like there is physical pain for a physical wound, there is psychological pain for an emotional wound. Pay attention to it!
Just as you take action if your physical pain doesn’t go away in time, you should take action for your psychological pain from an emotional wound, that can be from a breakup, trauma, failure, rejection, bad decisions etc.
HOW TO SPOT THE PSYCHOLOGICAL PAIN?
The main indicators of emotional pain are sadness, unexpressed anger, guilt or shame. All of these feelings can hide under physical symptoms such as:
- Feeling Drained
- Feeling Helpless
- Upset Stomach
Look out for these, having these symptoms for the long term means that you are in psychological pain
HOW TO STOP PSYCHOLOGICAL PAIN?
You can start by accepting your emotions, judging will cause extra emotional pain Staying in the past or future will do no good for your present condition. So try and focus on the present instead. You can always seek the help of a psychologist if you feel the situation is out of hand.
2. STOP YOUR EMOTIONAL BLEED OUT
When a volcano erupts, most damage isn’t done by the lava; it’s done by the clouds of ash and the aftermath they cause.
Similarly, when we encounter a traumatic event or a distressful situation, it's not a situation that causes the most damage, it’s the vicious cycle they launch.
Past failures can lead to a lack of confidence, lack of confidence can lead to learned helplessness which can lead to failure and the cycle continues.
HOW TO SPOT YOUR EMOTIONAL BLEED OUT?
Look for indicators such as:
- Sleep Disturbance
- Unable to sleep after waking up or sleeping too much
- Dramatic weight fluctuations or changes in your eating behaviour
- Sudden compulsions
- Sudden mood swings
The key is how often you are feeling this sense of distress, how bad it gets, and how long it lasts
HOW TO STOP YOUR EMOTIONAL BLEED OUT?
Avoid Negative thoughts
Complete daily tasks, no matter how small, this will help to build your self-esteem.
Reward yourself after completing a task
Do not overcommit yourself
Seek the help of a psychologist if things get out of hand.
3. SCRATCHING A WOUND WON’T LET IT HEAL
Thinking about the past is natural and it happens, but when you’re repeatedly thinking about it over and over again, you’re “RUMINATING”
You’re not dressing the wound, you’re scratching it and hoping it to heal at the same time.
HOW TO SPOT IF YOU ARE RUMINATING?
Certain indicators that would help you spot it:
- Stuck with the same thought in our head
- Having a bad mood the whole day after one bad incident
- Repeating different scenario of the same incident
- Repeating the same sentences over and over etc.
HOW TO STOP RUMINATING?
Engage in activities that make you feel god, physical activity, a prayer etc.
Rather than repeating the situation aimlessly, focus on the changes you can make, if any, if not there’s no point in repeating it.
Focus on your breath.
You can always seek the help of a psychologist if things tend to go out of hand.
4. LEARN TO USE THE FIRST AID KIT
One thing we all know is how to use the basic first aid for physical injuries. Learn and use basic first aid for psychological injuries too.
So you can give basic aid to your family, friends, children and impact their lives positively.
The curator of this piece, The Backyard Psychologist is the creator of a judgement-free community by the name of Breaking Biases. The community is a space to open your mind, understand the powerful concept and change perspective towards things. It helps in expanding thinking beyond biases and prejudices.
You can too let out your emotional wounds and thoughts on Now&Me!
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