10 Oh-so-easy Ways For Introverts To Express Themselves Better
Firstly, talking about introverts! How do you actually define an introvert?
Probably, a person who is always busy with his/her thoughts or who has a book in his hand or who just likes to spend some time alone!
That person would always prefer some me time than a party which would be usually preferred by any extrovert.
Deconstructing the Stereotypes
Some might consider an introvert as someone who is unfriendly or indifferent but that's not the case. In fact, the person is actually a bit reserved who would like to spend time with a few of his close friends because they exactly know how he is. The person, in general, has his own different way of enjoying, spending time and being social.
Apart from these common characteristics that define an introvert, one can witness some unique traits too. When introverts come out of their comfort zones, it's hard to believe that they are actually introverts because of their unpredictable charm. The image of introverts is those of boring, mysterious, and non-expressive people, but in reality, this is not the case. They have their own ways of expression. In fact, they are some of the most talented individuals ever found.
We do understand that expressing feelings is extremely difficult for introverts. One can't expect everyone to be outspoken and that's completely okay. As an introvert, you might be often confused as to how you can express your feelings with ease. People might call you boring and that would have hurt you, obviously. But, you don't really need to be ashamed about who you are as every individual is unique in one or the other way.
How can introverts express themselves better?
Well, there are multiple ways to do so. Some of the most amazing ways in which introverts can express their feelings better are as follows. Make sure to read the article till the end!
Control your thoughts
One should always control his thoughts. By controlling them, you can save yourselves from not speaking something which might hurt the other person at an inappropriate time. On the other hand, do not suppress your thoughts totally as that can also cause harm to your mental health. Say after processing your thoughts and thinking about how other people might get affected by hearing what you wish to tell them.
Engage on platforms where you can voice your opinion
It's not always easy to speak without being judged. One can't speak to anyone for the sake of speaking. But there's a need to speak up what's going on in your mind. It's always a good idea to reach out to someone with a similar mindset or experience.
There are various platforms where one can speak his problem even anonymously such as Now&Me. Here, you can engage with individuals who are willing to help you out or maybe just listen to you. You don't have to reveal who you are. Just reveal what's going on in your mind and get ready to feel lighter. Even other websites and helpline numbers are available for your assistance.
Talk to your loved ones
Your loved ones can range from your parents, partners, siblings, friends, or anyone with whom you feel comfortable speaking to. They are the ones whom you can trust and speak up without any fear. Talking with any of them would automatically bring a level of confidence within you and as an introvert, you might be able to express your views better. An introvert would get of his comfort zone while discussing with his loved ones. Just give it a try once! You'll feel much better.
Watch for emotion dump
Since introverts don't speak up usually, there can be emotional baggage inside the individual. He might have been suppressing his feelings inside and when he finally gains the courage to speak up, then he unloads the feelings and emotions completely.
The emotions keep on accumulating and when given the chance may dump out all at once.
This can bring more negative than positive because if a person speaks out each and every detail, giving the other person every information he might end up hurting the feelings of the other person unintentionally. This would harm your own relations with others causing serious damage.
When your mind is filled with so many things, it's best to write it down. For people who have difficulty talking about their feelings, writing is the best option to feel better. You can write anything, maybe a quote, a poem, a random thought, or an article! It entirely depends upon you.
Don't stop yourself by thinking that you are not a good writer. Forget about spellings, punctuation, grammar, or anything. Nobody is going to read it. It's just pouring your heart out. You can probably maintain a personal diary and write whatever happened during the day. You'll surely love your new companion!
A typical introvert likes to spend some time alone. So, what better than meditating for a while? Meditation can provide you the much needed me time, some space and can help you to focus on your thoughts.
It would protect you from anxiety and help you to reflect without any sort of judgment or distraction. It would give you enough time to think about something in the deepest possible manner. Meditating for even 10-15 minutes a day can work wonders, especially for introverts. It provides them an atmosphere away from inward thoughts that may distract them.
We all have heard about the benefits of exercising but how is it related to the expression of feelings by introverts? Well, it is related in the way that exercise releases good hormones in the body leading to a positive feeling in the body.
Now all my introvert friends might be wondering what is the link of this to our mind! Actually, it affects a person more physically but can also boost mental health. When you're happy, your mind is also happy. All the negative feelings or thoughts might also release in the form of sweat and when you feel totally relaxed, try any other way like writing or speaking to your close ones.
Change the way you look
Yes, you read that right! Many organizations have researched and found out an interesting point. By changing one's appearance i.e. how you dress up or your haircut or maybe a tattoo, you would actually feel more confident about who you are. That's a great way to start.
In fact, various theories prove that your appearance speaks for you. It means that people can often understand your emotions through the way you dress up. You don't need to undergo a complete makeover! Just a simple yet different haircut or change in your dressing style would give you a different mood that you wish to express.
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Pick some art form
Art has a strong healing power on a person's mind. It allows people to become productive, do something new, paint up their feelings, or just acknowledge their emotions. Introverts can pick up any art form be it painting, drawing, sculpting, singing, or dancing. Do whatever makes you feel happy and free. Supposing, you wish to speak something about your school crush but can't speak about your feelings, why not paint up your feelings or maybe sing a song all by yourself. It would certainly boost you up!
Reflect the feelings shown by the opposite person
Suppose introvert gains enough courage to speak up to his friend who hurt him. Eventually, the friend tries to defy himself and starts getting angry. How should the introvert react? Instead of increasing the other person's anger, he should speak calmly to him by saying something like "I know that you're angry. What are you thinking right now?” It makes the other person believe that even though you are hurt, you respect the other person's feelings. This might end up on a positive note with a solution too.
Edited by Annanya Chaturvedi