Yesterday night i had a fight with my best friend. It was about she being very busy and not talking, texting, calling, meeting me since last 2.5 months. This is not the first time she did this, same has happened several times i keep on ignoring just because i dont want to mess up. But whenever we talk, she always says “you r too busy to talk, in mocking n taunting way”. Yesterday i felt bad n told her i sm not the one who is busy. She is the one eho is always been busy. I knew if i complaint she will not make any efforts to make it better, insted she will just go. She send me a huge paragraph telling she don’t need to clarify thing to me. She was involved with her bf. So she said its good to have someone when she was low.
I don’t know what this ment. It is not that i never tried to talk to her. I called several time n answer from her end was…i am busy, I’ll call u in some time or on weekend or at night. But call never came. After making 3 to 4 attempt to talk…i gave up n didn’t call again.
I feel no one is too busy to talk…
She is not that busy with work. Maybe she always didn’t do it by choice.
Is this one sided friendship?
Should i talk to her?
Should i let this be as it is?
nothing prolly @idc
maybe you could just talk it out. once and for all. clarify all the doubts. if she still behaves in the same way, maybe you should just let it be. she’ll talk to you. don’t worry. just don’t overthink. sending you love<3
She is not the one to who will accept her mistake. Nor dhe would explain. So I don’t find any point to talk.
But i definitely don’t want to lose the bond which we had for more than 10 years now. I didn’t complain about this earlier, due to this reason only. For her its always easy to not talk it out n let people go. For me it never is.
nothing prolly @idc
the fact that you’re still trying to maintain that friendship, shows what a beautiful soul you are. you don’t have to point out her mistake or something. just talk it out. explain her that you want to maintain this and dont want to lose her. things will be alright,give it some time.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Hey mate I read your situation and maybe she need some space look she is with her bf or maybe she wanted to give her time to bf so don’t show desperation just try to okay and give her space and I tell you one thing when we are too available for someone that time we also lose our value in there eyes so maintain some distance and look if it is about friendship than no matter if you talk or not if both wanted than it will stay firm so don’t worry just give her some space and there is something which we call priorities so see your own priority while she see her don’t worry it happens in life
Sanket @sanket
Might be she is busy? Or she need some space? Or you must have said something which she didn’t like, maybe her BF doesn’t wants her to talk to you? Too many might’s and maybe’s.
Disconnect yourself for some time. Think about all the recent conversations/text/meetings. Search for a reason behind her ignorant behaviour. But don’t conclude the things.
After disconnecting for few days, may 20days? Contact your friend. Tell her what you felt, ask her if everything is alright? Tell her that this behaviour of hers makes you feel uneasy. Speak to her.
But remember, be polite, be respectful, the tone should not be a blaming one. If she is a good friend the put efforts to know the truth and if there are any issues in between you then resolve them.
