Why is it that when people try to build a connection with you and when you finally accept that and reciprocate, they back off? But they still want you around them. How do deal with this? How do I not get my hopes up?
Because humans. People like winning. So when you don’t show interest it’s a challenge for them. They think “Oh this person isn’t giving me any attention. There might be special”
Once you accept and reciprocate, they know they have won.
Coming to why you shouldn’t be worried about such people. What does it tell you about someone who keeps chasing people to get validation? I say they are deeply insecure. Because they don’t think they are worthy of anyone’s time. So all their life they keep chasing people who don’t care so much, make them care and move to the next person. It’s about the attachment pattern they are replicating.
And it doesn’t have to do anything with you. They need to do work on themselves. If this isn’t the case then the reason must be something as simple as you guys didn’t click when you started talking more. May be they felt attracted and after talking the person might not have resonated with you. Again this doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. Everybody operates on certain wavelength. You would have a better relationship with the someone who’s in sync with yours.
