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Anonymous

Why does it make me feel hurt whenever I hear about my partner’s previous physical relationships although the girls are not in his life. But there still is one girl whom he thought he used to love. I have met her and it’s just that I become immensely jealous about her being around him everytime. It’s like paranoid feeling grips me and I feel like what if he still loves her.

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@kairo

Hey!!

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Anonymous

Hello…

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Anonymous

It’s not my place to say this.
But I think you should confront him with your feelings about her. And if he really love’s you n keep you at the top of his priority list. Then he’ll do anything for you.

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Anonymous

I have confronted him and he says it was past and now they are just friends.

And about doing anything for me if it means that I will tell him with whom he should make contacts and not then he will become miserable and feel like I am forcing him to live like I want him to.

It’s just all so confusing.

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Anonymous

You can’t put restrictions on him it’s just if he feels that much for you. Means he won’t do that again for you. Because he’ll you it’ll make you insecure.

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Anonymous

First things first ask him directly if he still have some kind of feelings for her like (0.01%) n if says he cares about her n all then he might have feelings for her I mean feelings don’t vanish ryt it’s just we feel for another person more…

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Anonymous

He tells me that he cares for her but loves me. And I should have faith in our love.

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Anonymous

Offcourse have faith on him n on relationship if u wanna know ask him but not too often it will irritate him n can I ask you something do u know the cause why u feel jealous of them…

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Anonymous

He likes the things she personally does in her life like travelling and photography as he himself wants to travel a lot. He thinks that they think the same way.

I know it irritates him. And it’s not like I have not asked him but it is irritating for me when he gives me answers that I have to decipher instead of giving straight answers.

He tells me I am his queen and he loves me.

But when I saw them talking to each other I felt like his caring nature towards her made me feel really really jealous. The girl right now is going through side effects of bad breakup.

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Anonymous

Woo that’s a bad for you that she’s going through breakup phase she can gain sympathy on that basis but why r u thinking yourself as something less than her I mean jealous kick in when we think the other person has more to offer than we have…

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Anonymous

As I said I am being paranoid. I have my own talents and he knows it and loves it.

She did try to gain sympathy by crying a lot when I was in the other room as I was sleepy.

The whole thing became weird for me because when I came out to take some air in the balcony and she was sitting there crying, I asked her what’s wrong. And my guy told me to let it be and that something has went in her eyes. I mean the girl has a tongue and can speak for herself then why should he have to do that.

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Anonymous

Bcoz he thought he needs to talk as he was trying to make her comfortable may be he didn’t thought that much on that he just said it… But you can say to him that you are a girl too n u can understand her n let her talk to you may be he will think about it…

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Pam @pam96

Everyone has a past … When you accept a person you accept their past … If you have a issue with that girl you should confront your partner rather than feeling this way … The more you delay you gonna feel more worse … If he is truely into you he will never make you have this type of feeling

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Anonymous

Isn’t jealousy normal, that does prove how much you like them and you don’t want anyone to take your place
I recommend that you talk to your partner about what or who makes you feel uncomfortable. Remember, communication is the key. If your partner is well aware of your likes and dislikes then they would definitely avoid or indulge in things for you if they really like you too
Good luck with that ^^

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Anonymous

But he tells me that he is in love with me and if he decides to be physical with someone he will let me know first.

And also if he gets physical with someone it doesn’t mean he loves them.

He tells me I should be able to live my life howsoever I feel fit and he should also get the same liberty.

I don’t restrict him from doing anything and I don’t feel that letting someone live there way is wrong.

It’s just that I can’t bear the thought of him being physical with someone and he knows that.

But it’s just whole different kind of insecure feeling when it comes to this girl.

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