Sansthita @sansthita
Whoβs the most toxic user on now and me and why? Letβs talk/vent/rant. Sending warm hugs and love to all my lovelies (even the toxic ones, because I know you have scars too)
Chris @boredaf123
Open gossiping ??? Lol π
Sansthita @sansthita
Just want to hear some opinions. Many people are bothered about the apparent toxicity here. So I just want them to vent
Chris @boredaf123
What do you think of the platform itself ? Is it good or bad ?
Sansthita @sansthita
The platform is great, but some people r just so problematic, they often end up hurting others over here.
Chris @boredaf123
I think and itβs just my opinion but I humbly believe that one needs to learn to be resilient to a certain extent when it comes to facing toxicity. Itβs a good thing that you want to speak about toxicity here but we must also know that we wonβt always have non toxic people around us, to thoda bear karo. If you think itβs too much, reach out and complain to the creators of the platform . I just think that openly asking it this way is bit rude.
Sansthita @sansthita
Itβs not for me bro, I am least affected by these. I am a psychology student myself, I can deal with this. This post was supposed to be a place to express for those people who have been bullied.
Chris @boredaf123
Isnβt the whole platform meant for what you just said now ?
Sansthita @sansthita
Itβs not being that way anymore, havenβt you noticed? People r afraid to post because of these trolls. Itβs easier for them to comment under a post. Thatβs why I posted this. I donβt think you should be having any issue with that
Chris @boredaf123
I havenβt seen any difference as of yet . Perhaps you may have experienced something otherwise , so this post . I find it comfortable here, posting or commenting.
Sansthita @sansthita
I have been here for a pretty long time. The environment is changing. Baaki I am sure your experiences hold true as well. Take care buddy!
Chris @boredaf123
Just curious: how old is this platform ?
Sansthita @sansthita
More than 2 years old
Chris @boredaf123
OMG. I discovered it pretty recently.
Sansthita @sansthita
Welcome to the platform then π
Chris @boredaf123
Thanks.
Arenβt we all in a way toxic for ourselves rather than others
Sansthita @sansthita
Thatβs a good opinion
Fact yk
Sansthita @sansthita
Yeah I agree. But some users over here are spreading too much of negativity and harming the mental health of a lot of users. I want these people to open up over here
Good initiative ππ»
Sansthita @sansthita
:)
Haha I know whom are you referring to⦠i support you dude
Sansthita @sansthita
Not referring to anyone. I see a lot of people feeling hurt over what others write under their posts. My post is just to give them a safe space to rant and feel better
Sansthita @sansthita
Tui abar ki korli?
Sansthita @sansthita
You have been mean to someone over here? π
Sansthita @sansthita
Shorbonaash. Kyano re? The main agenda here is to be kind to people
Sansthita @sansthita
Just try to be careful. Be softer when you reply, donβt get riled up when someone doesnβt agree with you and just be careful. People here r mostly going thru very terrible times. Today if after reading your comments, someone commits suicide, you might not be able to forgive yourself for it
Sansthita @sansthita
Oh hey. Good to see you again. When were you mean though lol? I mostly saw u being nice over here
Sansthita @sansthita
Just try to be kinder. It works.
Sansthita @sansthita
The one I am talking to? Or someone else? Btw sorry for your experience:(
Sansthita @sansthita
High five to that! π
Sansthita @sansthita
Yeah like there are suddenly too many toxic people here. Kindness is tax-free, at least they should avoid talking trash on someone elseβs posts. We have all come here to vent
Yup i remember that he said something like youβre too old to talk to and then I saw him doing exactly the same thing again.
Sansthita @sansthita
I apologize if u have been hurt. :(
Sansthita @sansthita
Aare sir aap? Kya ho gaya? Naam badal daala
Sansthita @sansthita
Mujhe hindi aati hai. Didnβt we talk on telegram? π Aap bhul gaaye mujhe and aapne naam badal diya aapna
Sansthita @sansthita
Ji ji basic hindi bhi aati hai
Sansthita @sansthita
Kya ho gaya? I canβt make sense of what you are saying? All good?
Sansthita @sansthita
:(
Some people donβt know how to appreciate others feeling, while others are unhappy with themselvesβ¦
People who let others down,
are maybe hurtful soul
that need healingβ¦
Sansthita @sansthita
I agree. But having trauma, doesnβt give you the right to traumatize other people
Exactly people arenβt happy in themselves and
All these things lead towards toxic behaviourβ¦
Sansthita @sansthita
Yeah and although thatβs not justified, this needs to be taken care of.
their toxic behaviour doesnβt differentiate between what is wrong or what is rightβ¦so instead of focusing on what others are doing , or what they are upto, they need to focus on themselvesβ¦ maybe then they can change for better
Nyx @lost_not_found
Do you think traumatized people realise that? Rights you say, were their own right not violated in the furst place? I dont mean to be rude but try getting some empathy before raising sensitive stuffs like this. Much love!
Sansthita @sansthita
Agreed
Sansthita @sansthita
I am a psychology student. We are trained to have empathy. I for my part, have always empathized with people here, you can check my posts. But if today I kill somebody because I have trauma, that wonβt make it right. Ofc my trauma is to be empathize with, but what about the trauma I gave to someone else? I.know itβs not about right or wrong. But the simple thing is that we should avoid hurting or bullying other people, we donβt know whatβs happening to others.
Nyx @lost_not_found
Being a psychology student you should get more into whys than whats. Start with why does a bullied person bully, could it be displacement of their feelings? Is their a chance that its unintentional? You know its a common saying that the way people treat you is the way they yhing they treated themselves. So faults lie deep within. Imagine being so numb from being hurt that nothing else matters? How would one react? Its just a worse case scenario but it does exist right?
Nyx @lost_not_found
Think they are treated**
Sansthita @sansthita
Yes it does exist, but it doesnt justify the toxicity they perpetuate. My subject isnβt just about understanding the whyβs, itβs also about making people understanding the shouldnβts. You know right that the men who rape other women have issues? Does that justify them raping the girl? No it doesnβt. You can be numb from hurt, you can have hell but if thatβs making you hurt others, then you need to address it.
Nyx @lost_not_found
Haha its actually comes down to expecting right from people who have been wronged. Its difficult, maybe too much to ask for sometimes. But its okay to address it in a personal note and not like this. I dint expect it from someone who is learning human behaviour
Sansthita @sansthita
Yes. I am learning behavior. And the issue with this subject is that you canβt empathize with just one person, you have to empathize with the other one too. You canβt just empathize with the murderer, you have to empathize with the one murdered as well. Read my post again. This was not to belittle anyone. This post was supposed to be a safe place for other people who are being bullied here- a safe place for them to vent. This wasnβt a personal attack but this was meant to comfort those who have been trolled for sharing their vulnerabilities. I donβt need to justify the work I do over here to anyone. Those who follow my posts, know who I am.
Nyx @lost_not_found
Apologies. Though its kind of you to justify yourself even tho there wasnt any need to. Habe a nice evening
Nyx @lost_not_found
Have***
Sansthita @sansthita
Dear NS, if someone is getting triggered or hurt by my post, itβs my duty to justify. I am concerned about everyoneβs mental health Ober here. The number of trolls has increased exponentially. A guy here writes horrible comments on the posts of other people, another girl attempted suicide because of the comments she heard over here. Itβs no longer a safe place. This post was for these people- so.that they could vent and rant and feel better. Thanks for finally understanding