Whenever an unknown guy texts me and eventually I find out that heโs hitting on me, I just turn him down by saying that Iโm already taken. Without even knowing about the guy I just say this to him because I feel I canโt deal with guys anymore.
Is it a good thing to lie and turn them down?
jay @jay12
Maybe and maybe not
Why so?
jay @jay12
May be you found the perfect boy for you
First you know his intentions then you can dump him
I used to do this earlier. But now Iโve experienced so much of it that I feel itโs just a waste or energy and time to talk to a guy and then find out that heโs just the same as others. Everytime i talked to someone I was never surprised coz I already knew the grind
Pam @pam96
Well i understand that you might have experienced it so much that you find it not worth to waste your energy โฆ You should first get to know whatโs the intention โฆ some might just wanna be friends โฆ Itโs just that they keep on hitting on you so it makes you feel like this โฆ But before just try to get to know them
But Iโm very exhausted because I did it multiple times before
Pam @pam96
I understand โฆ Donโt expect only until you feel like โฆ If their wordโs doesnโt match their action โฆ Do what you feel like โฆ But you yourself told is it good to lie and town down ? So yourself know itโs wrong
Maybe I should just tell them the exact thing
Simran @st1199
Hey!
Hitting on you - can you define it includes what?
And, you donโt want to be in a relationship thatโs why you do it or because someone tries to approach you and you donโt know what to do next? ๐
It includes flirting and dropping hints that they like me. But when they do it I know they just talk the talk and never turn them into actions.
Itโs not like I donโt want to be in a relationship but I donโt find anything close to what I expect. Basic expectations.
Simran @st1199
So, since you donโt continue talking only how do you know they are not turned into actions rather just words?
Basic expectations include what all and in how many days/months you expect this?
No I used to spend efforts and time before. And I did this a lot of times. Itโs just now that I think itโs not worth it.
Basic expectations include- loyalty, decent behaviour, and interest. I just expect these things.
Simran @st1199
Ohkay, then the time hasnโt come yet who will fulfill all this. Maybe take it slowly and explore than cutting it out.
Also, according to me, one canโt expect loyalty in few months/days.
Yeah thatโs right. And I believe that everything will happen when the time is right.
Depends