What do I do if I feel like I’m stupid and will never succeed in anything? I’ve already been in uni for a year longer because it’s too hard to graduate and I have a dead-end job as I can’t even get an internship, let alone an “entry” level job (they require experience anyway). I guess I should finish my thesis and graduate and/or learn on my one, with online courses or whatever, but I can’t focus on anything for more than a few minutes, and whenever something’s even just slightly difficult I burst with anger and fall into a depressive episode. So I don’t do anything out of fear this will happen.
Hey, I totally understand what you’re going through.
Firstly, breathe , it’s fine , it’s okay to feel this way.
You just need some time off work, off studies, take some time and just relax, do not think about anything in that period, just think it’s a holiday for my mind, I’ll think about everything about this vacation.
Secondly, after relaxing your mind, write down what exactly is bothering you , write down everything, every problem you’ve in your mind.
Then, ask yourself what would make you feel better ?, Solving the above listed problems and any other thing you think can help you feel better.
After that, break down your problems till the point that you get an answer, for example,
- why can’t find any internship ?
- did I look everywhere I could for the internship ?
- yes may be not, I should look some more online sites where I might find internships, like internshala, indeed.com etc.
- do I have a resume/ fresher resume ?
- if yes, do I need to customise it according to every offer I apply to, ( yes you should customise ), if not, let’s build a good resume.
This was just an example, all I’m saying is, everything you’re thinking has an answer, just counter question your thought until you get to a solution, there’s always always a solution trust me :)
And also, you’re a gem, it’s okay to feel useless sometimes but make sure to bounce back the next moment and say " I’m extraordinary, I’m going to make my life worth living ",
Try affirmations like this, change some things in your routine lifestyle, add some good things , you’ll see change in your attitude.
Remember every answer is within you, you know what’s needed ?
To love and appreciate yourself
enough that you’ll give time to yourself to come up with solutions, don’t be hard on yourself, you’re totally worth it, you can sort all of your problems, and you will, I believe in you, now it’s time for you to believe in yourself :)
So many people already fear you because they know your potential and here you’re thinking that you’re not good enough and you can’t do it :)
Recognise your worth, because you really worth it :)
Smile, okay?
Wow I feel you. I’ve had to redo two years at high school! Now I’m doing pretty well in college in a course I like but it’s still rough sometimes to deal with the self esteem issues and fear of failure born of always being the worst at school.
But here I am working my ass off and being well on my way to a masters degree.
Go get that degree! I don’t know the situation of your internship but be pro-active, chase it! Ask your classmates for help, ask your teachers/professors if they have contacts or ideas, maybe there’s someone you can talk to about the concentration issues?
I don’t mean to be some lame motivational speaker, I just really know how you feel and actually chasing success changed the whole game for me and I wish the same for you.
You’re paying to be at uni it’s your damn right to get every drop of those resources.
I know you can do it!
