Very typical but I just found out my ex is dating someone else and I didn’t know it would hurt this bad. I thought I moved on because its been almost 5 years since we broke up. I guess I was just not ready, I am feeling a lot of things right now but I am just not good with expressing so it’s a little tough for me. I think I was high up in the horse thinking he won’t be able to love someone as much as he did to me and reality poked my bubbles real hard. I am just on this forum so I can let it all out because I don’t wanna be a toxic person for myself and for others around me. I genuinely wish them the best, I think I am just jealous that he’s in love with someone who is not me. I hope I can cope through this.
Sanket @sanket
You yourself have given the answer! Its jealousy, healthy jealousy.
I don’t really know what a healthy jealousy is 😅 but thanks for being so upfront I really appreciate it <3
Turtle @turtle09
Hey… I can understand how you feel . My ex who i broke up last year is getting married this month.
Its okay gurl! Vent all you want about it here. There is nothing wrong in feeling bad about it.
You deserve the best and I hope this valentines you find someone who loves you more than him. 💕
Turtle @turtle09
Or if you want to stay single.It is totally okay . Its no competition. These feelings will pass. Give it time .
Aww I really really appreciate your sweet words ❤️ Thanks for the kind words.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Hey it is fine sometimes we just compare us to others and yup love that person once but then you both broke up so now you need to focus on your life and no one know what he feels or maybe he is happy or not once you broke with him just leave his matter or life focus on your own life and maybe you get your love or any other thing
Hey thanks for taking time to write this <3 and yes focusing on my life and improving it is! :)
I hear how painful that is through your words. I also know a bit about how that might feel because I too have been there. I struggled with that and I got through it. I know you will, too. There is hope.
We ruminate on unresolved issues from our past, because we haven’t yet made sense of them. We are uncomfortable with things that have happened. Also, we are uncomfortable with how we feel about how those things have happened. It is like our brain is trying to make sense of it by thinking about it over and over again. It’s as though we’re unconsciously trying to feel better. The problem is that this strategy often doesn’t really work.
The reason it doesn’t work is because it doesn’t help us move past the issue or the negative feeling. The process of rumination keeps us stuck. We are kind of like a hamster on a wheel. We feel like we are making progress, but we are really just running in place.
Advertisements suggest that life should be easy and problem free. Our friends in real life or on Facebook highlight all of their positive experiences, so we get this sense that life is easy for them. This is false. Life is hard. Life is hard for everyone. Nobody has an easy life. If you are having a hard life, then you are doing it right. Indeed, this is considered a timeless truth that has only recently been hidden.
The process of trying to control or get rid of the pain is what makes it so bad. If you open to it and accept it, then you’ll feel the discomfort and it’ll pass. Feelings are meant to be felt. Once they are experienced they tend to move on like a cloud passing through the sky.
Once you begin to open to the emotional pain, you’ll have extra energy and time to spend on things that you really value. You’ll no longer be eating up time doing things to avoid or control the pain. This will free you up. This doesn’t mean that the pain will go away, but it’ll no longer be front and center. You’ll now be free to live in a way that is consistent with your values.
I know it’s a bit of a read… we’re here for you.
It’s like you saw right through me. I am at loss of words right now except thank you so much for writing this. I think all these years I was trying to control how I feel rather than being open about it and I only ended up hurting myself. I have this tendency to “stay strong” every time and only learnt through time that it’s okay to be vulnerable sometimes. Thank you again ❤️
Glad you found it useful as that was the guidance and advise given to me to like a million years ago. It was difficult to put it into practise initially but the constant reminder that we only have “one day at a time” affirmation is what greatly helped.
I have one day at a time.
You have one day at a time.
He has one day at a time as well.
None of us are exempt from this wonderful law of nature. That’s when it made sense to being open to the pain, taking it one day at a time and over time it passed eventually. When I saw my ex after a long time by chance, I felt nothing or more apt to say that none of the past feelings came to surface and neither did new ones develop.
It was on that day that I realised that I truly got over that person. And after that is when I “became strong & stayed strong”. One day at a time… we’re here for you.
One day at a time ❤️
Hey, YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS. this is what happened with me: even I kinda I found that the guy i like( who likes me back) and we are not talking because of a disagreement actually. I found out he has valentines day plans with someone else and it broke my heart. I just felt that i really loved him and I want to see him happy but i miss him so much and I had questions in my head like," Does he not love me?"
However, love is not on an and off switch, you cannot really put it off. So i guess give yourself some healing space and affirm to yourself that a true love is out there for you, that will truly love and respect you dear!
You got this! You got true love coming your way
Thank you so much! ❤️ Love you
You’re very welcome! Take care and stay strong <3
