Vent: I found texts on my bfās phone with another woman. It broke my heart š
Itās been about a month since. He said it happened because he thought I was cheating on him. Only thought; I wasnāt, and he didnāt have anything to say when I asked him what made him suspicious.
He cried a lot, and I decided to give him another chance.
A week ago he told me that he has to go to a different city for a friendās wedding and that he would be staying with two friends (female). I felt really weird about the situation, especially after what had happened.
While he was there, we had a big fight. When these two friends found him distressed, they asked him what happened and he told them that I have depression and that I donāt trust him. He told them that I was insecure about him staying with them and now Iām so embarassed that I want the earth to swallow me whole. This is the absolute worst. I cannot believe this is the person I love and was my best friend for a long time. I cannot stop crying.
samosaperson @samosaperson
What did I just read? šš
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samosaperson @samosaperson
I have a feeling that this person is quite selfish and immature. He is already building an army against you. Girl, he is bad news and if the events unfolded like you said they did, you need to take a break from the relationship for a while and re-evaluate your values and priorities. Continuing it this way will kill your self esteem.
He is not being honest with you, he seems to have a lot of insecurities, without honesty and clear communication its hard for the relationship to workā¦especially accusing you of cheating while he does suspecious things is manipulative behaviour, try talking with him clearly and tell your concerns, he should confide in you and not other female friendsā¦see how the talk goes, but if the same behavior persists better to get awayā¦otherwise you will not have mental peace in the long runā¦
I donāt know what to trust anymore or what to do. I feel like Iāve depended on him too much.
I know he has some insecurities which I have tried to work out, but I seem to always be the bad one in any situation. This time itās his friends thinking the worst of me and him calling me āsmall-mindedā because I was uncomfortable with him staying with those friends in a different city, without me. Is that so unreasonable?
It is not at all unreasonableā¦its hard but you need to take some space from him and assess your situation and decide what to do, your self-respect and menatal peace are important tooā¦you cant be always trying to understand and catering to the personā¦
kuldeep singh @kuldee9
Yapp, I can feel u bro
Once a cheater is always a cheaterā¦mark my wordsā¦ Cheating is a choice if he could make it once he will choose it again
Cheaters should not get a second chance they donāt changeā¦and then cheating and accusing you of the same is the biggest red flag. Girl if you wanna save ur heartā¦ RUNā¦
Having insecurities after someone gave u enough reason for is nothing to be embarrassed about.
He just doesnāt sound sincere at all. Get a grip girlā¦ Look for yourself
Thanks for the advice. :)
I am taking some time away from him. I have also spoken to a therapist and it is helping me gain a better perspective on the situation.
Could you tell me what happened?
Big Time for you to check if you really want to be in a relationship with him only to be belittled and be embarrassed. He may as well be doing this to hide his mistakes and to make you feel guilty about the whole situation.
I spoke to a therapist, and while talking about the relationship, similar patterns appeared in everyday situations with him (makes a mistake, blames me, I feel guilty, I begin to make excuses for them).
Itās immensely difficult right now, but I have realised that I cannot continue this way.
This self-absorbed fool doesnāt even know what he wants so how can he be with you? One of the reasons they cheat is because they are uncertain and do not know what it means to be in a relationship
Shivam Singh @ispshivam
Just forgive him and move on by accepting the situation
VJ @imshapeboy
The same happend with meā¦ Not even wants to remember itā¦ Itās hard to think about it and to trust itā¦ That she did it to meā¦ Or she were just a reason to show me a lessons of life loveā¦ Obivious Stuck! I had to end that relation even though I begged her to stay in my lifeā¦ Even after knowing she was cheating with meā¦ Bcz I was so attached with her that i canāt let her goā¦ I asked her some time some days to let me be ready about our break upā¦ Then we will do it with mutual understandingā¦ But i dont know what and why I was doing thisā¦ Still donāt know what is it what it wasā¦ I just lost something idk what. Sad us with happy face.
