uh, so here’s my problem. im 17 now. i started dating a boy last year. say he’s A. we were going alright for a month or so but then he never really gave me the love and attention i wanted. at the very same time i got close to another guy. say he’s B. we use to talk everyday and he would give me the attention. one day me and A broke up coz he was hurt by the fact that i was getting closer to B. in no time after that breakup, i got together with B. my biggest mistake. but I still loved A. and he came back at the same time and i got together with him too. yes i dated 2 persons at the very same time. B didn’t know that i got back with A. and A didn’t know that i got into a relation with B. i didn’t know what a grave mistake i committed. this continued for a year. soon, A started doubting me and B and then B started doubting me and A. B was very hurt, he cried, but i was not showing any interest in him. some of my friends knew that i was dating A, while others knew that i was dating B, BUT THE THING WAS I WAS DATING BOTH OF THEM SIMULTANEOUSLY. B got really pissed and then slowly i understood how big of a blunder i committed. now i and A broke up mutually. but im unable to get rid of B. im scared that in the anger of breaking up with me, he’d go and talk to people and find out that i also dated A. he would just totally kill me. i don’t want to hurt anybody anymore man. i just want to live peacefully. nothing more. just peacefully, without hurting people. what do i do? i can’t confess theyll be shattered.
PLEASE HELP ME OUT
Sneha Anand @sneha08
Hey, I see nothing but confession as the only option. Yes, the repercussions might not be great but it’s not okay to keep someone in the dark.
For the long run, that’s the best you can do.
I honestly just would break up with both of them. You’ll have to say that you need a break of course. But I don’t personally know you so, think of something yk. I honestly think it would hurt for sometime but once everything is settled you have to admit it and clear up the air. If you still have feelings for one of them, you can tell them and you’ll have to prepare being rejected. Lot’s of love.
bhavya @bhavya2urhelp
Hello! Hope you are well. I know you feel stuck. You feel stuck because you sense that whatever you may do, you will break hearts. You are so tried, so exhausted of being the reason for others pain. You don’t want them to suffer more, hurt those whom you love. You don’t know what to do now. If you confront him, them, you don’t know what will happen? There will be sorrowful faces, he might hate you, your friends might discern you, how you will handle that pain? To be honest I am not sure what will be the consequences exactly but yes, yes you have to confront for one last time. Like spring the flowers blossom with fresh and peaceful air to breathe a new start. A new origin where you start with true realisations and heart full of love to give out to everyone.
We cant and to be honest should not continue with current situation. I know its hard maybe seems impossible but you have to do it. You have to hurt others for one last time with affection in your heart.
ADVICE-Stay strong, you have to understand yourself and be honest to yourself. Dont push yourself away. When there will be regret in your heart feel it, admit it and believe it that you have learned your teaching.
Belive me. For one last time.
And before hand i will tell you, you never did anything intentionally. You have a pure heart that is why you are here. People might not understand you but you have to walk though it.
All the best. Take care. Blessings,wishes and strength tp you.
