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family is openly homophobic. i came out to my mom 2 years ago and she seemed accepting but she continuously makes homophobic remarks and tells my 12 year old brother that gay people are just going through a phase and non binary people just have to pick a gender. my grandfather (whom i’m very close to) doesn’t know that i’m gay and he refers to members of the lgbtq+ community as “f@gs” and “animals”. he says that “you are whatever’s in between your legs” and says that gay people will go to hell. he try’s to scare my brother by saying “if you don’t want to go to hell, don’t be gay!” they’re trying to convince my 9 year old sister that being gay is a sin and it scares her. she doesn’t know i’m gay. my favorite band is queen and he often refers to freddie mercury as “a flaming f@g” and while i thought it was funny at first i told him he can’t say that and he said “what? just like (n-word)?!” i don’t know what to do and i feel overwhelmed.
Hi, I don’t know what advice to give you and I don’t know if you’ll feel better after reading this but you’re not alone. I’m in a some kind same situation too. My family members are Christian ppl and homophobic and they don’t have an idea about me being bisexual. Whenever the LGBTQIA topic comes up, they would badmouth them and talk harshly like hell and stuff. Maybe for now you should just not open up about things or give hints(?) cause if they even a tiny noise about that topic, you’ll feel indirectly insulted again. That’s what I did. Whenever the gay word comes up, I go out of the room or just ignore it or change the topic. People like them aren’t easy to bend especially if their belief is already carved up in their identity. And they refuse to be corrected or even just hear your side.
unfortunately you’re right. people like that won’t change. it just hurts when it’s family, you know? i’m sorry to hear about your family. anything i can do to help?
I’m fine :) How about you? Can I help you in any way?
no, just talking to someone helps more than you think. thank you for your kind words <3
I wish you’ll find someone who’ll make you feel special and treat you how you truly worth <3
