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Today I caught my husband talking to a call girl(prostitut*) , ours was love marriage and it’s been 2 yrs now and I found this today. I am shattered completely.

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Anonymous

Oh no, that’s pathetic of him. Do you wanna talk about how you feel? Are you sure it was a prostitute?

Anonymous

Yes, I saw the msgs. I was shattered. It was hard for me to believe. I don’t knw what to do now.

Anonymous

Hey girl if u wanna talk u can talk to me and i will suggest you that talk to him its not about marriage it’s about ur happiness as girl i am saying don’t think about society just listen to u, u deserve what u want in ur life talk to him ask him if it’s strange then leave him, marriage love yasab kuch nhi hah if tum khush nhi hu toh

Anonymous

We were happy until today. There was no other issue. I talked to him, he said he did mistake n he don’t even know the girl… he met her in fb n she has directly asked him that “for how many hours u want” and for that he has replied 30mnt video call.

Anonymous

And she said 300for voice call n 400 for video… I still remember the exact conversation between them. M broken completely. 2 families are involved and I don’t know how will I share at home abt this… m not getting what to do

Anonymous

Leave him please dear parents smjh jaienge pakka ik u can’t give ur kids a father who is like this do u want too?? You’re educated you’re worthy a man cannot destroy your life and yup say him i am going to leave u and i want divorce and see his reaction if its positive give him chance and uske baad krta hah toh then u must leave him and remember kuch galat hota hah kuch bhi negative u have to leave him because your parents send you there for your happiness your real happiness

Anonymous

I told him then and there only that I want divorce as I can’t trust him again in my life. He held my legs n start crying and asked for forgiveness and promised to nt to repeat it. But I don’t have trust atol. I believe there shd b trust in relationship

Anonymous

Then leave him will be better for ur mental state and even marriage is something that is beyond then a relationship because here two souls and two family meets so Whtever you’re thinking do it tell ur parents

Anonymous

Iam just saying what I had in my mind. It’s completely your wish to listen or not.
Give him last chance and ask to share every password of social media accounts.keep track of him.
Make sure and give strong warning.
I know it’s really hard for you.
We are living in crazy world. And we see the things that haven’t expected in life(painful).It doesn’t mean you have to hurt. Do whatever your heart says. Think carefully.
It’s up to you whether forgiving or following someother.

If you feel bad for what I said Iam sorry.

Anonymous

No,u didn’t say anything wrong. Thanks fr the support. I am gonna take break and decide which is best fr both n family.

Cheating can’t be justified…no matter what…and what he did
Is completely wrong…i know how you are feeling towards it…but i suggest you one thing…you should tell your family about it…
Then whatever they say but please listen to yourself first…but whatever you decide
Know this if he can do this once
He can do that again… And ask yourself will he forgive you if you do the same?

See the negative as well as postive things about your relationship…but at last choose
Where you don’t have to compromise your self-esteem

Anonymous

I am seriously not getting courage to tell my parents. It was love cum arrange marriage. And if my parents learn abt this then their trust also ll break.

So hiding things will maintain their trust…as if it will make things okay?
See no matter it is love arrange marriage …your parents will understand you…you might not know that now but will know later…
You are suffering alone mate,
And i know you are strong…
But you need to tell someone rest is your choice…more power to You…

Anonymous

Thank u, feeling better afr sharing it here without being judged

Anonymous

confront him and divorce him. No more trusting him. He already lost your trust. He don’t deserve you anymore. Parents may give a very bad lecture for you to make things look like they are better but they are not. You cannot just be same with that person again. Out of fear or something he may say apologies to you and things seems to go back to normal for some time. But they are not like they seems… he will cheat on you again behind your back with more precautions this time. you have to go through this again. So better leave him as soon as possible. Never trust a cheating man. Live your own life.

Anonymous

I completely agree fr what you said. But letting go easy not easy I guess. Specially wen u r married. Before deciding anything big I wanna get calm myself n talk to him again. It’s 5 yr relationship n he has never done this before, I wanna know the reason behind it before taking any decision. I may b wrong here but m bit emotional person. I don’t get close to anyone easily but here I have invested my love,time, happiness n everything.

Anonymous

Wait how is your sexual relationship ? Male generally have such tendency like looking for sexual pleasure, but cheating your partner for it, is not justified at all. You should talk to him abt it & warn him if possible. Avoid telling abt it to your parents for now as it is a love marriage. It’s hard for you but yeah always think abt long term. Never make any hasty decision.

Anonymous

Our sexual relationship is good. N yeah bcoz of love marriage m stepping back and thinking to sort out within ourselves. If it was arranged marriage then things wud have fallen apart already.

Anonymous

Try getting out of it dear. You can’t spend your entire life knowing such a thing about the prsn you love. Rishte chalaane k lie nhi, nibhane k lie hote h. This is not justified. Take the action now or else you’ll be regretting for your entire life. It hurts to know that your partner is cheating on you. Marriages are meant to be pure. Lots of love and strength to you. Do what you want to. Get a break, think wisely. Whatever the decision you take, make sure you never regret.

Anonymous

Thank you for the support, yes I am taking break to decide. It’s 5ye relationship and I m jus nt ready to let go easily. I knw he did big mistake,I want him to regret and understand by standing in my shoes. I can’t forgive for this.