This has to be one of the bad days post breakupā¦ Iām trying my best to heal but one thing that strikes me still is ā¦ I was always there for this personā¦considering that the way he ended things with me over a text ā¦ we had a really healthy relationship of 7months . He said he had to become selfish etc bullshit when I called him. I wanted to say a lot of things to ā¦ which I still want to say. I really feel like saying everything that I kept back considering his feelings but I feel like saying a thankyou over call, just to end it hurting him the way he did when I was in midst of a wedding with a sprainā¦ Idkā¦itās really bard to keep back from the feeling of saying how grateful I am for him to end it over call just the last time. What do I do? ā¦
Yash @the_broken_soul
Go ahead and tell whatever is in your head. In that way you will get a closure if not love. Because that is what you deserve at least.
Should I reallyā¦? But I donāt want him to feel like I went back to a douchebagā¦
I suppose that when you go to him you wonāt be sweet and honey.
You should make him realise what he has missed and make him regret that
Speak your heart out to anyone. All you need is to be heard. So better talk to someone anonymously
I do want to but thereās a probability he wonāt pick up the call or read the textā¦
Any suggestions?..
There is a word called self respect. Never loose it. I know your heart wants to give it a chance , but he is not worth it. Keep calm and let it be gone. Something beautiful awaits. You can text me personally to share a part of ur story . Or here too, whichever you are comfortable
I have enough self respect to not walk on that road ever again. Or at least even cross paths with that person . But I do have enough self respect to actually let him down. Idk whyā¦ it feels so suffocating that I valued it till the end. I wonāt let a guy walk on saying bullshit abt my character like that . I just feel like ending it this way. Ik I might be wrong rn but I really wanna let him know that he was a piece of shit and Iām very thankful for his absence which brings me to ending this call.
You are simply giving him the power over you. What if, he does not accept his mistake? Will it not make him wrong?
If he is wrong, irrespective of he accepting it or not, he is . You donāt need assurance for it.
Very true. Itās been two weeks and the first one was hard and easier at he same time ā¦ I was flooded with questions to throw at them, but then I realisedā¦ If they were a really good person, they would have cared. If they really meant what they claimed, they would have understoodā¦ If I carry a growth mindset at 16, I believe I deserve someone who has balls to stand with me at21. I choose relationships, friendships and things with that perspectiveā¦ ofc anyone who isnāt ready to go through he hard times in the relatio ship is doing u an offer by leaving youā¦or ādecluttering your circleāā¦ Iām at a better place rn, subconsciouslyā¦I feel free.
Thatās a crucial time which everyone experienced in life but in my opinion if you were right nd he doesnāt care about you nd your feelings so giving him a chance is not worthit.
Chance tb diya jata hai jb missunderstanding ho nd you both wanna patch up but if you sont want to patch again just MSG him donāt wanna talk pissed off.
Nd if he is really a nice guy nd you think I have to give a chance it first time or shi ho jayga toh donot go for a relation nd bolo ki abhi friend rhte fr dubara dheere dheere thik ho jaiga nd us time mai you have time to test him that he is really serious or just for lonelyness he is playing try it may be it worked
Well ur in the same spot as me. U know my ex left me for a similar reason and broke up over a phone call on my birthday! The fool dint even realize that it was my birthday! Hurt like heāll we were on a relationship for 9 months. So what can I tell u is nothing to be exact, go thru ur loss im still going thru mine its hard there r days where I just want to hear his voice but then I hold back its self control, nothing can be done u knowā¦
To be very honest ā¦ being with someone who breaks up before your birthday or even on your birthday for their āincapabilityā and āimmaturityā to work on the relationship, is seriously ātheir lossā. Not ours broā¦ never, ours. We did our best , we tried our bestā¦ if I ask you was there a time in the relationship where u felt unheard, disrespected, lonely or where u felt he prioritized his friends over youā¦ if you think abt itā¦ youāll be able to analyze it ended for goodā¦ ik there are times where u would want him to be there ā¦I do tooā¦ but our love and affection for the person is indirectly proportional to what they deserve rnā¦ Iām glad you could relate to me! We are going to get past this , very soon. Love!š«š¤š¤
Well there are alot of ups and downs but I can tell he genuinely cared about my well being. So I made up my mind to become sooo strong and financially independent till so one day all those who left me looks at me and says āhey u know what I knew herā thatās who I want to become
Great perceptionā¦š¤
shiva kumar @shivavolley99
Never go back to the person who broke youā¦cause when you go back they think there decision is rightā¦just calm and focus on youā¦let them realise on their own what he lost
Very trueā¦ I realisedā¦why should I let thek take control of something they arenāt responsible enough forā¦ I do miss them sometimes, but I feel at peace rn ā¦ really peacefulā¦
shiva kumar @shivavolley99
Yesā¦but hard times will comeeā¦you should also be prepared for that too
Yeaā¦ more than prepared tbhā¦
