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Anonymous

There’s this guy in my university , I really used to feel we could be good friends. I mean he was a lot like me , more like a male version of me . Even though he barely used to speak with girls back then , he finally started texting me consistently . Though we both are ambiverts , we are kinda shy and hesitate to speak with each other in person. Also ,a lot of my friends really don’t like seeing us as friends. In the very initial days when they once spotted us, they were super jealous and started creating situations so that we both couldn’t speak to each other. And We barely exchanged convos in person then. Now one year down the line we still are the same . I feel miserable , knowing that I have this one person right infront of me who could be one of my best friends and he kinda feels the same.Not that we don’t put in effort . Both of us do but it never works out.ngl he puts in a lot of effort than I ever did. Ig we both have this constant fear of judgement. We don’t really speak when we are in a group of people . Our convos are sporadic . We speak one day we don’t the other.
Any suggestions on how to overcome this?
And how to even approach a guy in person and still not intimidate him?
Is it better to have a convo when he’s alone.
Ik this sounds super lame but please help me out.

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Anonymous

I think you should openly talk things out first . I mean just talk openly about what all you are feeling as you have mentioned above . Tell all this to him and ask him to speak openly about his feelings. It is very important to talk things out , express and clear misunderstandings (if any) . Communication is the key to a good relationship , be it friendship , commitment or anything. I hope this helps you. Good day :)

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Anonymous

Even I thought of talking about it directly and telling how I really feel . ( Ig I really have to do if things don’t get better) . But was wondering if he would feel intimidated if I walked up straight to him and tell all of this.

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Anonymous

hey girllll
No its doesn’t sound lame…
So I have few ideas which might help.
As u mentioned you both dnt speak when in groups, then fr once lets try being alone. Or atleast being in group makes u both comfortable to be face to face.
If possible _you both can work on assignment or projects together, cuz that time there won’t be a direct pressure to talk, both are engaged in tasks so would be comfortable.
if not projects, then any activity you guys can practice together

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Anonymous

Thankss , will definately tryy

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