theres a freshman thats crushing on me and i'm 16 and i'm a trans dude and he knows I'm trans and like- I'm a questioning aromantic and like i don't wanna hurt his feelings but like he's a freshman- and there's very obviously something wrong there- so like- what am i supposed to do?? i need advice

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LGBTQ

So I made my coming out to my mom and she said that if I assume that I'm bi then I should forget that I have a mom cuz I'm the one messing up

ok so where do I start
I am a 18 year old gay (lesbian actually but I prefer gay). So far I have only 'come out' (I hate that word) to a few people and all of them are friends. I am proud of who I am and I'm pretty happy where I'm at but it hurts to think of what my parents will do once they find out. Everytime I try to bring up topics regarding the queer community, they just shut me down. It's come to a point where I don't even bother talking to them anymore.  Do I just tell them and get it over with?

This past week I've felt very depressed. Awhile ago my parents found out about me being bi(they didn't believe me but hoped I'd be with a boy still even though I have a girlfriend) there have been many things said to me about my gf or me being part of the LGBTQ, nothing good. I've also come to the conclusion I'm gay but I feel like a part in that could be from past experiences..For years I've tried asking my mother to get my hair cut short cause I truly hate it. I did at the beginning of the week without them knowing, decided that following morning I'd also officially come out as gay. But doing that threw my mother into a absolute fit saying I'm lying about being gay cause she's seen my friends with even shorter haircuts and assumes I just want to fit in....they are trans. I never told them that bcz they are homophobic and I wanted to continue hanging out with them. She's also said I'm only into girls because I don't feel pretty enough to get a guy. But anyway, because of this she said no more dating. My gf doesn't know yet and I don't know how to feel. Trying to remind myself I have 1 yr left in this house but idk...Idk how to cope with all this and have had zero energy to do anything.

Anyone from LGBTQ here? 🏳️‍🌈


Some reminders for Pride Month from a queer and trans affirmative psychologist:

❤️ If you/ your organisation is inviting a member from the LGBTQIA+ community for a talk or workshop, remember to ask their pronouns and address them correctly. Make it a habit to introduce yourself with your own pronouns whenever you meet any new people. 
🧡 Let’s try to focus less on “love is love” and more on how queer people are in danger for simply existing the way they want to. Their safety is a serious concern. 
💛 Be aware of rainbow washing- using the pride movement as a label to make profit and capitalise the queer community to act “woke”. 
💚 Try supporting the community in your own way. If you can’t donate financially to an organisation, donate your time. If you can’t collaborate, educate yourself on queer history. There will always be a way if you make one. 
💙 You don’t have to come out to be queer. If you’re struggling in silence, I see you. I know it’s hard. 
💜 Ask yourself- are you an ally all year round? Because adding a rainbow flag to your profile is not going to end discrimination. 

Ok so basically I'm non-binary. I'm out to my friends and my sister. This kid at my school knew I was non-binary, and even was non-binary previously. He comes up to my randomly and asks if I have a *women genitalia*. I was uncomfortable and didn't answer, he proceeded to go around and tell EVERYONE IN OUR CLASS that I am a girl and have women genitalia. My teacher overhears this and calls the principals, yes we have 2. They come in take the kid and me out. I am pulled aside and I explain, I didn't say the non-binary thing (cuz im not out yet). I don''t get in trouble, but the kid got suspended. The principal CALLS MY MOM AND DAD. the kid had outed me as non-binary, and now the principal goes and tells my parents this. My mom asks me if I was, and I said that me and my friend had been talking about it but I wasn't. She believed me. My dad comes home and he asks me. I WAS SO SCARED. I still am. If you're not LGBT, you may not get just how terrifying it is to get outed when you're not ready to be. It's like if you were pregnant, but hiding it, and someone went and snitched. Wouldn't you want to kill that person? That's how I feel rn. God I can't breathe. It's so scary.

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