There are so many people that I know for a fact, talk to me just for their selfish motive and not because they want to be friends with me or like me. Inspite of knowing that, I just can’t ignore them because I feel I’ll be hurting them if I do so. As a result of this I have so many toxic people in my life. How do I cut them off without making them feel bad?
I have a lot of friends, that’s not the problem. The problem is most people who take up most of my time aren’t people I wanna be friends with. Even if I want to be friends with them, I can clearly see they treat me as their emotion bin or someone they talk to when they’re bored. Inspite of clearly seeing that I can’t just cut them off my life because I fear I’ll hurt them if I do so
Rahul Jadhav @rahuljadhav
Slowly slowly get away from them
Like start ignoring them little by little till they get fed up and leave themself?
Rahul Jadhav @rahuljadhav
But what selfish motive do they have
They talk to me when they’re bored, and don’t even reply to my text when I want to talk to them.
Or they talk to me about themselves, kinda using me like a emotion bin, and seem absolutely uninterested in listening if there’s anything I want to say as they immediately direct the conversation towards themselves.
Everytime they text me, they’re just flirting with me. It might work for a few, but I don’t want to waste my time on such people who are looking someone for a time pass or to feel like they belong or to just randomly have fun conversations with. I really really wanna cut them off and channelise my time and energy in activities and people that’ll reciprocate the same
But it’s difficult because they’re all so nice to me. I don’t want to hurt them or make them feel like there’s some problem with them that I don’t wanna talk to them
Rahul Jadhav @rahuljadhav
Ok I’d suggest the same to slowly cut them off if you’re talking 1 hour daily bring it down to 55 mins then next day 50 then 45 so on it should be very slow & get busy that’s the thing do something with your life people might get hurt even I did that because I’m an entrepreneur & I have time for no one my friends were pissed off at first but then they understood but I guess you have a toxic circle so get out of it asap
Rahul Jadhav @rahuljadhav
Nothing is easy of you want to get out you have to do it
You’re right. Guess sometimes we really need to make the choice to stop burning oneself to keep others warm! I’ll definitely try to do that! Thank you so much for your time and your comment, means a lot to me
Rahul Jadhav @rahuljadhav
Yes exactly, you’re welcome 😊
Thank you so much for taking about the time to write up such a helpful comment. I do try to do it, but then I start having a sharp guilt in me that someone’s wanting to talk to me and I’m not talking to them because there’s no two way give and take relationship. I kinda feel like being selfish? Idk but I feel extremely guilty and it seems like coping up with their selfish self would be much easier than coping up with this guilt.
Also, I’m really interested to read more about it, can you please be a bit kore specific on what to look for?
Thank you so much! This has been the most helpful response I’ve ever received on this platform! You’re very kind! I really hope you have a beautiful life ahead! Thank you once again *hugs *
Get yourself busy in your life with work or extracurricular activities,go to gym
Then ultimately you don’t have time for those people.
