The day I hear she’s getting married, from some place or someone I’d go into complete isolation and work on myself because I think I wasn’t “man enough” to ask her out
this situation is pretty common for real. i think we all stop ourselves from confessing our feelings and asking them out because we were scared that they might not have the same feelings for us. so at the end, when things like these happen, like them getting into a relationship or getting married, we regret that we didn’t come forward and do it.
but if we keep regretting it, we’ll lose ourselves. as they say there are a lot of fish in the pond. but then of course we can’t forget about that one person but at the same time we can’t keep drifting away into their thoughts.
In my case the heart wants what the heart wants. I’ve been to multiple cities after her but I swear no one caught my eyes like her. I feel a connection evven though we haven’t been talking. I cannot go a place where I don’t feel nostalgic of us because we’ve talked about everything. Every freaking thing reminds me of her
i understand how you must be feeling. the same thing has happened to me.
but what good is it to keep losing yourself for them when they’re out there being happy while you’re here hoping for something to happen?
Ikr. But I cannot help it. The feelings are put of no where. I become sad out of no where while I’m happy as if she’s not happy too but I know. Her actions spoke that I was just another guy, though she shared soemthings with me other than that I was just another guy in her dms, who was “trying” on her. But only I know it was not just that
You should work on yourself now. Focus the energy on productive. Also you never got a chance in the first place,I believe she would have said No(90%) to you in the first place.you just yourself from a gross humiliation. Good luck for the future!
Ik. I’ve been working on myself. Trying to get out of that negative thoughts and building my career
Good luck buddy. Keep it up!
I’ve been there not very long ago. I saw her, I fell for her and decided to befriend her. We were getting along well as friends and I decided to find out a bit more so I can get in to propose someday, but found out that she’s getting married. God it broke my heart so bad, knowing that I never really stood a chance. But 2 months later, I’ve reduced my feelings for her, but we are still very good and close friends. We share everything about ourselves. She shares things with me probably her to be husband doesn’t even know.
Is it tough?
It was, but now I’ve kinda coped up a lot. I feel good that I never confessed although I know she does trust me and probably was even attracted to me. Had I confessed, things would have been worse off because her marriage is arranged and not love
I did learn a lot from her, she is ambitious and trying to imitate her, I pulled myself from depression. When I burnt myself out by trying hard to succeed, she comforted me emotionally
Tbh your situation is better than mine and you’re a tough man
I was able to make the situation better by getting her to open up about herself. It’s when you think about what people want over what you want, is when people start liking you. Doesn’t mean you have to compromise on yourself. And I’d be lying if I said I’m a tough man, you have no idea of how many times I’ve cried to my family and friends whenever things don’t go the way I want them to go
It is difficult for me. I’ll not lie. She’s closed off too. She doesn’t like to talk about her feelings though she’s shared some with me. But whenever I gave some advice or try to console her she was always like I’d hope that things get better with time and change the topic. I cannot try when I feel the other person is not interested but I tried with her. I totally get her she won’t open for me out of no where
I get it, some people are just closed off, but even they open up with enough perseverance and patience. Make sure not to try to pry her open. Don’t armtwist her or anything, let her take her time. Also don’t in any case sacrifice your mental energy. Remember that a constant stream of water can crack open a rock. Be gentle and preserve yourself as well
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Duh! You got my Heart… 😙
🏻 🤍 lo yey rakh lo 🤗😅
It was so pleasing to listen to you.🤞
You are a man to get inspired from…
Being man enough is a myth rather a force…that society put on you.
Do you know 70% of the girls never propose anyone? So what ain’t they girl enough? If they love someone, and if women are ‘powerful’, then why can’t they do the first propose? Too hard?
So it’s not abt man and woman. It’s abt who you are as a person, what your mindset and love for that person is. Don’t feel bad, if possible someday tell her
I know that’s why I double quoted man enough. Thanks though