s♡ @shittylifefr
this situation is pretty common for real. i think we all stop ourselves from confessing our feelings and asking them out because we were scared that they might not have the same feelings for us. so at the end, when things like these happen, like them getting into a relationship or getting married, we regret that we didn’t come forward and do it.
but if we keep regretting it, we’ll lose ourselves. as they say there are a lot of fish in the pond. but then of course we can’t forget about that one person but at the same time we can’t keep drifting away into their thoughts.
s♡ @shittylifefr
i understand how you must be feeling. the same thing has happened to me.
but what good is it to keep losing yourself for them when they’re out there being happy while you’re here hoping for something to happen?
You should work on yourself now. Focus the energy on productive. Also you never got a chance in the first place,I believe she would have said No(90%) to you in the first place.you just yourself from a gross humiliation. Good luck for the future!
Good luck buddy. Keep it up!
V @az78
I’ve been there not very long ago. I saw her, I fell for her and decided to befriend her. We were getting along well as friends and I decided to find out a bit more so I can get in to propose someday, but found out that she’s getting married. God it broke my heart so bad, knowing that I never really stood a chance. But 2 months later, I’ve reduced my feelings for her, but we are still very good and close friends. We share everything about ourselves. She shares things with me probably her to be husband doesn’t even know.
V @az78
It was, but now I’ve kinda coped up a lot. I feel good that I never confessed although I know she does trust me and probably was even attracted to me. Had I confessed, things would have been worse off because her marriage is arranged and not love
V @az78
I did learn a lot from her, she is ambitious and trying to imitate her, I pulled myself from depression. When I burnt myself out by trying hard to succeed, she comforted me emotionally
V @az78
I was able to make the situation better by getting her to open up about herself. It’s when you think about what people want over what you want, is when people start liking you. Doesn’t mean you have to compromise on yourself. And I’d be lying if I said I’m a tough man, you have no idea of how many times I’ve cried to my family and friends whenever things don’t go the way I want them to go
V @az78
I get it, some people are just closed off, but even they open up with enough perseverance and patience. Make sure not to try to pry her open. Don’t armtwist her or anything, let her take her time. Also don’t in any case sacrifice your mental energy. Remember that a constant stream of water can crack open a rock. Be gentle and preserve yourself as well
Being man enough is a myth rather a force…that society put on you.
Do you know 70% of the girls never propose anyone? So what ain’t they girl enough? If they love someone, and if women are ‘powerful’, then why can’t they do the first propose? Too hard?
So it’s not abt man and woman. It’s abt who you are as a person, what your mindset and love for that person is. Don’t feel bad, if possible someday tell her
