Sometimes I feel like my girlfriend is using me. I don’t think they love me, they love being loved. I don’t know what to do anymore and sometimes they tell me really personal things and they scare me, I have trauma’s from that subject because of my past. I really want to support them, but I don’t get why they tell me all of that. Of course they’re allowed to talk to me about what’s on their mind. But, why this way? It really affects me. I don’t want to leave them, but it makes me feel really trapped. I feel scared to speak up about it because then they might do that one thing again and I will get blamed for it. Is it normal to be overthinking your relationship all the time? I don’t think they care about me the way I do for them?
Nick Hughes @nick4568
People change and you’ll get hurt sometimes, but if you try you’ll never know. it sucks being hurt but it will make you grow and become a stronger person. just be open about your feelings and if it wasn’t meant to be you’ll find the right person. Wishing you the best of luck
So let me get straight to the point… If you ask is overthinking normal in relationships… I’ll say a big yes… Bcoz am am overthinker too and it’s bcoz of my past and I become anxious and insecure sometimes… It’s hard I know… For people like us it’s hard to feel loved and secured in relationships… Mostly bcoz of past trauma… But the things is instead of expecting others to understand you… You should work on healing your inner child… Bcoz if you leave the relationship or not it won’t change anything until you work kn yourself… So my suggestion is you can read books on healing. Watch videos on this topic… All you really need right now is to connect with your inner self… This journey is not easy but it is worth it ♥
