So this started when I was 20 my sister was 14 and my brother was 9 years old. My mom and dad had a fight and they stopped to talking to each other since then all they did was fight and scream all day every day so since that day I tried fulfilling my fathers space in my moms life. I tried every possible thing I got married at 26 it’s been 6 years now all my savings are with my mom because my dad does not contribute to the household expenses at all he just takes loans pays interests and then sells a property every 5 year to repay them he stuck with his 50 years old business of something that people don’t need anymore or use anymore but still he sits there like stubborn 65 year old man. And during all this phase the biggest loss we had to bear was the mental health of me my sister and my brother and also my married life is off track. I come to my moms place to support her every month and sometimes 2 3 months I stay with her. My savings with my mom are not from my earnings it is from pocket money I get from my husband it’s a huge amount which I started doubting I will get back plus I have no answer to give to my husband about those savings. My brother has become alcoholic. He’s just 22 now. He doesn’t do anything apart from drinking and smoking. And because I never focused on my married life my relations with my husband are spoiled he cheated once.
Now after all this drama I get to hear from my mom today that I don’t do anything for her. I feel shattered. I know she has done a lot for me. She sacrificed things. She stared working to fulfil our needs. She tried to give everything best to us when my dad gave up on us but still I am not able to take this burden anymore. Now she expects me to heal my brothers mental health which is not in my hands honestly. I can’t do it I feel drained. I am 33 years old I want focus on my own life and plan a baby but I am not able to do anything. So I request if there any psychologist or counsellors here please guide.
Hey I’m so sorry you’re having such a tough time. Altho I’m pretty helpless about your situation I send all my love and positive vibes to you. You’re a strong woman and I hope everything gets resolved soon. Take care. ❤️
Hey I’m soory to hear that , just know that if you’re doing good you’ll get it back good things will happen to you too , dont lose hope yore a strong lady it’s not at easy to be where yore are and still think about your family but you need to understand that if you’re helping your mother you need to do it on yore own with your own earning that will make her proud and you wont need to expain your husband but firstly
YOU NEED T0 FUCUS ON YOUR MENTAL HEALTH FOR NOW .
rest of the things can be fixed later
consult a psychologist and take care
-much love ❣💫
Do contact heartitout
They have a website with good psychologists.
