So recently I have been feeling a lot more comfortable and secure (thanks now&me!) about being bi since I realized about two months ago. I am wanting to tell someone, and I have a friend who is really accepting, he has a few lgbt people he’s really good friends with. I know he would not tell anyone if I asked him not to, and I’d be a lot more likely to get an underreaction than an overreaction from him.
The problem is that because of the pandemic, I’ve been doing online school, we are in close contact, we text almost every day and FaceTime often, but I actually haven’t seen him in person for weeks. Is it ok to come out over text? And if so, what do I do or say? Do I just tell him outright or have an actual conversation?
What excites and terrifies me the most about coming out is that it would be real, not just a thing in my head or something I can push down. Is this what happens every time someone comes out? I’m not ready to even think about coming out to my parents, but I do want to tell someone, and I don’t know any lgbtq+ people to ask irl.
I want to be out of the closet, I want to be an open part of the amazing lgbt community, but I just don’t know how or where to start. Is coming out as bi less important or noticeable as gay or trans? Am I making too big of a deal out of it? Any advice?