So my husband lives overseas and from marriage till now which is two years we didn’t live together and I am living with my parents now as we’re going to live together today all of a sudden my husband asked me what are you going to bring he was asking for dowry even though in the beginning I had told him that I am against dowry so my mom also said what you want and he said nothing and most importantly we don’t have such a tradition like a dowry. I didn’t ask him if you’re asking for a dowry or anything I am in total shock what should I do and how should I react to him??? He’s not like this I feel like someone is telling him to say such things….
Phantom @vx6098
Confront him on this. Do not let up. Absolutely fight this tooth and nail. Fight, you must.
Thank you for advice…
Land of Blues @landofblues
A girls mind, thinks abt so many things cos she cares. Isn’t it?
Please talk to him. I know you are shocked, and sad. But don’t be angry, before it ask him. Maybe he is expecting a simple gift from you?
I just don’t want you guys to break apart due to misunderstanding. If you need to vent, talk…pls feel free to reach out. We are a here to listen to you without judgements.
It’s not about what I feel or think he said it directly and 100% serious I also don’t want to end this but his this question totally devalued him and decrease his worth.
Dowry is what he wants? Oh no…😔 If that’s the case, my friend, you are better alone.
How can someone who respect and love you do this?.. Pls keep strength, and make your way out 😔😔🤦 if you need to talk, vent, I am here for you. Others there too 🤝
Land of Blues @landofblues
For once, ask him. Why does he say that if he knows, you won’t be able to afford. Doesn’t he love you? If the answer is otherwise, try to find a way out of this, before a family is born.
Have a clear conversation about what he meant. It’s not good. You will be trapped once you had kids with him. I was the only child of my parents,he used to say if we have kids then he will also get a share in our property like that.he would never say it directly .
I asked him several times about to clear what he said but he didn’t say a single word after… what you said is totally right.
Wanna vent?
Abhijeet A.K @akabhi
Better ask him directly from ur end and you should be against dowry and tell him or ur parents to say no to him… The more you delay in this matter you will suffer more
Yes you’re totally right. I am against dowry from the beginning and he knows that, no one gives
Abhijeet A.K @akabhi
See as I’m from law background profession and even as a friend I’m suggesting you to process what you want to do or how you want to tell your final decision about dowry… If you need any help let me know as a friend
Pathetic reply
Yeah… It may. And it’s also hard to accept. But it may be reality.
If you don’t like it… I will delete my comment.
Abhijeet A.K @akabhi
Try to ignore the ppl who suggest you negative and don’t reply to those then only you will be happy in life
