So, my boy bestfriend arghhh pretty common problem I guess. i like him. A lot. He has a girlfriend. That girlfriend is jealous af of me. She thinks that him and I are more than just friends. He constantly reassures her that there’s nothing going on between us. What makes me wonder is if he loves her and it upsets her when he talks to me, why can’t he just stop talking to me? I have been his friend for more than 2 years now. I can never tell him how I feel, so that option is out. To be very honest, their relationship is toxic af (not even being biased). Well just wanted to let it all out. But honestly, anyone who could help me?
It may be hard for you but just a small suggestion… ask him first casually and then firmly that… why ??? What’s going on in his relationship?? Why he is staying with her … I guess the guy doesn’t want to hurt her feelings but also likes to share stuff with you. Just get to know the reason and another thing is if it is possible for you maintain a proper distance from him … I am not saying not to talk to him … but if it can be less it will be good for all. Lately anything goes wrong in his life you should be there to support him!
Hope it may help
He is happy with her, I guess. The main problem for me is that what do I do with all these feelings? I can’t go and say all this to him. He is that friend who has ranked up to the family level for me. What do I do? I’ve never been this…lost? I’ve tried distancing myself but I just can’t. He says that I am the only one he has (He has been going to therapy too). I am scared that if I forcefully distance myself, it will get a little bit too much for him. I just don’t know how to get rid off of these stupid feelings
I don’t think you can do anything about it … it’s gonna stay with you!! Yeah it’s complicated and yes this is all is shit … but only time can tell!! Till then have this as an experience of life!!😬 … or when it feels that you can’t keep it to yourself just say everything to your friend!! No I am not saying that you love him or something like that … it’s just you want to stay connected to him!
Thank you so much! I know I am in a complicated situation and there’s no way out of it. It just gets a little too much to handle sometimes. I know that it will be selfish of me to distance myself from him in order to gain some perspective especially when he too, in fact, is suffering. Anyway, thanks for your time.
