So i was in a relationship for the past 10 years. But now my partner has moved abroad for her studies. We have been dating each other since the 7th grade. We were recently having a hard time in management of time and all the other challenges. One day out of nowhere my partner asked me whether we can continue this as friends ? Because she is having a hard time in adjusting to her new life abroad. I have been explaining to her that i can never be friends with her because I always want her as my partner. But i cant ask or request her much because she already has her plate full with other stuffs. I feel so lonely and frustrated. I feel like i have nowhere to go now. Nobody to look forward too.
Ksoul @ksoul
You always have people here who are as vulnerable as you
What should i do now ? All this is affecting me immensely. I cannot focus on my job. I have already spent sleep less nights just hoping she would get back together.
Ksoul @ksoul
Best thing you can do is leave it to whatever happens and work on yourself . If it’s meant to happen it will . If it’s not how many efforts you put In individually won’t help but hurt you more.
Its not so easy. I have been trying this for the past 15 days. Nothing feels right about this. I have known her for 10 years. This feeling cannot just go away
Working on yourself as much as possible will help you reduce your pain the fastest and eventually move on.
Ksoul @ksoul
It will not and that’s completely okay . I am in a similar situation. But eventually you’ll have to right? Talk to someone you feel comfortable with . Or seek help. I totally get you what you are feeling
What if i dont want to move on ? Because all i want is for us to be together
Ksoul @ksoul
Give it time . If it’s meant to be it will. You can’t force things right.
It’s a 2 person thing, however much you want to be together if 1 person isn’t interested you will after wasting months or years then try to move on. So better skip all that pain.
I tried talking to my friends. But in the end i become really uncomfortable. Because i cant think of all this. We never discussed about this. And suddenly all of this happening. Its a lot to digest
Ksoul @ksoul
You need to accept it first. If you cannot seek help. You can’t just be affecting your whole life because of it
Dont mind me asking but you said you are experiencing the same. What approach do you have ?
Its not so easy even if the other person has stopped caring or talking. Because I still have feelings for her
I’m going through the same thing me in my boyfriend didn’t break up but we close to it maybe. We both just have a lot going on in it’s pulling as apart I’m in college and I don’t really have that much time on my hands. And we might have to go live in different places for a while he don’t like the idea but it’s for both of our futures . I know nothing I say can make you feel better but your not alone you have many people around you even if u don’t see them they there . They just want u you to try to alive it yourself first before they take action
I’m going through the same thing me in my boyfriend didn’t break up but we close to it maybe. We both just have a lot going on in it’s pulling as apart I’m in college and I don’t really have that much time on my hands. And we might have to go live in different places for a while he don’t like the idea but it’s for both of our futures . I know nothing I say can make you feel better but your not alone you have many people around you even if u don’t see them they there . They just want u you to try to alive it yourself first before they take action
I feel really helpless. I want to talk to others about this but then in the end i become really uncomfortable
It’s okay to feel uncomfortable no one would judge you for that . You can talk on here about it if that makes you feel better but it’s worst to hold in all in because it’s going get to a point. Where you won’t be able to even be able to talk about it and all your Going want to do I hide it away and carry that past pain with you around for your whole life . It’s better to let it go now so you could live a good life later on