So i found out that my boyfriend with whom i have been in a relationship since 5 months shares a surname (sub caste) with my grandmother. Though they aren’t related but since i am an north indian hindu. Marriage would mean rebellion. Since marriage is uncertain continuing relationship would be stupid so we decided to take a break for a month as of now. We always used to talk about how similar we were. We were extremely compatible in strange ways.
What would you guys have done?
Continued dating 🤷🏻♂️
I am kinda paranoid though i dont really want my future generations to be in a risk of being genetically impaired. Its been 5 months so i am not sure about the bonding but we clicked with each other. The relationship was definitely going in right direction. Even though we did have fights but we were always up for communicating ohr differences and making amends. Even this breakup did not have any grudges. It was sad and we were unwilling but i took it like a champ. We were making jokes about it and laughing untill the end.
See this que shouldn’t be answered by us instead u should discuss this with ur mate…u know why cz u both know ur family well…will ur family will agree to your choices or not u know well n this matter should be discuss before move forward in this relationship cz u know u can take break now but at the time of marriage it may lead to steps which we never wanna do…cz at that u will be like I just want that person otherwise no one else…u will be so much invested in that relationship that there will no u turn…so decide guys!!!
Tbh i am atheist and up for rebellion if we dont share the same genes with each other and he was uncertain and he proposed that we should date casually which i am not interested in. I dont want to date if we dont have a future together.
Don’t date casual first know what both of u want , dating is good if it leads to marriage I think u want that , if u both want to get married then go for dating but know what ur partner want
Exactly. I am confused and sad and maybe suffering through dumpers guilt even though it was a well discussed decision and he took the final step.
Then he wasn’t interested may be casual dating would lead to trauma , u know what relationship comprises of :) do want to invest this in him :) who doesn’t want serious stuff
But you dont know from a 5 month relationship whether you want to get married with the same person or not.
That’s totally ur choice
That’s strange actually he broke up and now want casual relationship 🤔 can’t understand may be he just wanted casual relationship from beginning only
Was i ignoring the red flags from the beginning. Am i in denial.
Who ask this ki we need to get married?
I asked him and he was interested and he never really denied when i brought up marriage, i never forced him just wanted to know his opinion and he said that he does want to get married with me and even when we were breaking up he said he did ‘like’ me and everything about my personality except few things. When i asked him why he said liked he dodged the question and said that he doesnt want to get into the depth of the debate of like and love. He had a crush on me when we were in school and then i said no. We went into relationship with different people and it didnt work and then we met again because we had shifted nearby and then i developed feelings for him. He was also flirting btw and then i proposed him for relationship and he said yes.
Ummm that’s so bad :( okay let’s connect and sort this issue I can’t openly critise if u feel okay or I need to say here only
Let’s connect. I feel like i need to be punched in my face fucking things up.
Somewhere the decisions and action after the decisions send to uncertain and the basis on which the decision has been taken is also not that strong
I didnt quite get what you meant. Can you explain?
Lol…you guys are brother and sister genetically…glad you called it off…not good for future kids