So about 3 months ago I proposed my crush who was my good friend but she denied by saying that I am wondering person but she doesn’t feel the same and but I all always get a vibe she feels something for me but anyway I respect her descion so I am not saying to her about this but I am feeling so hurted every single day because I really love her and I am still not over her I can’t stop thinking about her like we were together how will react and all this when I watch something realted to couple mean any happy moments I think of her and then realized we can be together which always made me cry I am crying almost every night from 3 months and I know I am running my life because it’s okay 2 months left to college to get over and I haven’t figured anything for me but this feeling hurt so good and moreover she agreed that she will not ruin our friendship but lately I am getting a feeling now she is ignoring me I messaged her after a month and we are having some nice conversation but on middle of the conversation she is ghosted me and I know people will say get over her there more girl in this world , focus on yourself but I already heard alot of this from people 🥲🥲 and this is the only girl I have ever liked in my 21 year of life she was genuinely the first girl I ever liked i sometimes feel I am worthless and though she is a Very nice girl she deserves the best maybe I was not the best maybe I am worthless
DUDEEEE YOU KNOWWW WHATTT!! THE SAME SHIT HAPPENED TO ME MANN
I LOVED A GIRL IN MY 20TH YEAR. AND PEOPLE USED TO ADVISE THE SAME YOU ARE IN the SAME SITUATION AS I WAS IN BROTHER. I AM HERE TO HELP YOU IN EVERY F-ING WAY I CAN BROTHERRR.
I DIDNT KNEW I WAS GONNA FIND SUCH A RELATABLE POST HERE
SERIOUSLY MAN! I THOUGHT I AM SUCH A DUMB PERSON TO HAVE MY FIRST LOVE IN MY 20s WHICH I GOT REJECTED.
I HAVE THE SAME F-ING STORY AS YOU BROTHER JUST LET ME HELP YOU IN EVERY POSSIBLE WAY I CAN
I CAN SHARE MY EXPERIENCE IF YOU WANT
Really you were in the same situation brother 🥺🥺 you can realte to me 🥲 this hurt so good
Yes brother if you’re comfortable
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Anon
Hello , let me start by saying that you are are NOT worthless. I know it’s coming from a stranger but you are not . It takes a good worthy person to have a friendship like you have with your friend. You love her and it takes courage to love someone.
I have experienced something so similar , so maybe I am in a position to tell you. You can love her in your own way and that could be enough , you not need to be over her . You can love someone more then a friend and focus that love towards your friendship . Because you love her you can allow her to come to terms with her feelings. Because everyone deserves the kind of love and can be expressed and not be bundled in confusion , and so do you . So I suggest let her come to terms with her feelings , just be there for each other as friends . If she continues to feel the way she does you always have her as friends you still have a great friend it might take time to get habituated to it . I Iould leave with saying ,to love is a great feeling to get the same type of love reciprocated it just dumb luck .
Just be her friend , she maybe need sometime but you will guys will get to a better time.
I hope this helps
What do you mean by “You can love someone more then a friend and focus that love towards your friendship” .and
“So I suggest let her come to terms with her feelings” and i really don’t she wants friendship or not because she is ignoring my text by ghosting in a middle of friendly conversation we use to have
This is personally just my understanding of this , by " let her come to terms with her feelings " you mentioned that you get a vibe that she feels something for you .if she has those feelings she needs to accept them and be open about them to you .
U deserve the kinda love which is not foreshadowed by confusion towards her feelings.
As for the lack of communication , maybe she is just feeling awkward as you are and doesn’t know how to quite handle it.
To explain the " focus your love towards friendship " …
Something similar happened with me and my friend , and we didn’t know how to negotiate our friendship from there . It was like we forgot how to be friends , which was awkward and dumb. We Decided to build it from the very beginning and hoped that all this newness would soon go away …it’s been four years now we are closer then ever. I don’t know if it will make sense to you or even help you . But when I said you don’t need to get over her or just get it over with .
I really want to make our friendship like before because for anything friendship is more important and for me friendship is anyway more important than a realtionship and I think we are both kind of shy type and I know we are lacking of communication and I feel scared of asking her why she is ignoring me because I think it can complicate things more and I know she will not message me first so to make any type of communication I have to take initiative but she has ignored my last message in between our ongoing conversation a week before
I understand this awful situation it’s like devil sat together and decided the worst situation to be in …to love a friend and not be able to talk even .
Just give yourself time when you think you are ready , track her down and tell her you are not having to lose her and your friendship , I know it’s awkward now but we will learn to be friends again just don’t give up yet
PS I threw a shoe at him to listen to me .
We talked about that after few days of her denial and she said we are cool and we will remain the same
Ohhhh for me it was the conversation again and again
Reaffirming of things , something new came up everytime.
Whatever happens we are here for you
Yea and I am lacking in conversation
So do you know the concept of affirmation
Really are you there 😭😭
I just spent quite a amount of time in replying to say yes I am here
I really don’t know what to do I kinda feel really stuck
