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I have been feeling guilty and depressed since many days. Actually i stopped my sister who studies in class 12th from talking with a boy with whom she was in a relationship. The boy was of our old acquaintance, so he knew me and also knew that i don’t let her to talk with him. At that point of time, i did this so that she could focus on her studies and not get distracted. But she kept in contact with him as soon as i used to go out somewhere. Later, the boy started talking with me casually. He said let’s keep the whole thing aside and let’s just be good friends l. I agreed and we were texting each other casually. But after some days, he began oversharing things and we started to talk more than we should have. Somehow, he fell in love with me and proposed me but i made him realise that it was all wrong. We were not supposed to reach that phase. He still was not ready to listen, but i somehow explained him that this thing won’t ever happen. But somewhere inside, i also started liking him but i knew that it was wrong , so i never confessed him about my real feelings because my sister was dating him and she still liked him. So, i used to stop myself from thinking about him in such way. Accidentally, my sister saw all the messages and she got to know everything. She asked me to stop talking with him and block him everywhere. I did so, but somehow everytime he used to manage to message or contact me and my sister used to taunt me and it really made me feel very guilty. So , i started being very rude to him so that he won’t message me again. But in my heart, i wanted to talk with him because i really started liking him. But again, despite all this i came across situation where i saw him and my sister talking and dating each other again without me knowing anything. That really shattered my heart. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. And some days back i confessed him that i did like him but now i didn’t want to talk with him. He said that let’s forget everything and be good friends, but i can’t do it because i really started liking him a lot. Now, also even if we don’t talk, i think about him for the whole day. But i want to get back to reality and want to get over him and his thoughts. I don’t want any guilt stuck in my mind. What should I do to forget him and start a good life because his thoughts really haunt me day and night. Please help!!
Why are you even thinking about a person who proposed you when he was already in a relationship with your sister? He was clearly cheating on both of you. Just forget about him and ask your sister to do the same. He is not at all serious with any of you.
I have tried a lot. But i really can’t, his thoughts stay stuck in my mind for whole day and night. I repent a lot that why I replied to his messages for the very first time and also later on. What should I do to not have thoughts of him and all the happenings.
Make sure that you are busy. Disconnect him from every ways. Go find a hobby. Join some classes such as dance, music, acting or anything that you would like to do. Focus on your goals. Fall in love with yourself not with a cheater. Try meditation and prayers. Take care of your physical and mental health. And in the right time you will fall in love with someone who is meant to be with you. So have patience till then.
Thank you so much…i felt much better after reading this and i am gonna give my best for myself now.
Glad that I could help you in someway. Good luck and Take care.
